Single Women Who Have Sex with Married Men
To start with, this is not an empathetic type woman at all. Remember, empathy is having the ability to put your self in someone else's place and understand how they might feel. Well it's obvious to me this type of woman doesn't waste one moment on trying to understand how the man's wife would feel when she finds out about the affair, or how it may affect their children, and family life. An affair is a very devastating experience for everyone involved, well accept for the single woman who gets to walk away, and let everyone else clean up the mess.
She is obviously a very selfish person. She wants what she wants, and too bad for everyone else involved. Talk about self-centered. And No, it didn't just happen, and No it's Not okay because you really do love him. Guess what? It took awhile for you to fall in love with him, all the while Never stopping it, before it even got started. It must be satisfying believing you're the only one that matters in this world!
This type of woman is usually sneaky, and manipulative. Not only does she have to sneak around trying to not get caught by the wife, she also usually has something up her sleeve when it comes to the man she is involved with. Remember, she has to continuously keep manipulating this man to keep him hanging on. Believe it or not a lot of husband's may have pangs of doubt, shame, and guilt when having an affair. It takes a really manipulative woman to keep him believing that what their doing is acceptable and that he shouldn't feel bad about it.
So, why do these woman go after married men? Well, sometimes it's because their just as commitment phobic as the men we here so much about. A married man is the perfect answer for this type of woman. She gets all the goodies without any commitment. She knows the chances of him leaving his wife is slim, and that's how she likes it.
Sometimes these women are just greedy and lazy. Some married men are more than willing to set them up in an apartment, pay them an allowance, and supply them with regular gifts. This woman believes why struggle on my own, when a married man is willing to support them, for an occasional role in the hay.
Some of these women just plain don't have any morals or values. Perhaps they weren't raised with any, who knows? What I do know is anyone with even the slightest sense of morality and values could not possibly think that helping to destroy a marriage or family is okay. Perhaps theses type of women will never understand it, until it happens to them. Then watch out, they become the biggest victims on the face of the earth. A shame they didn't understand it when they were the ones who were doing the destroying.
Well there you have it, a brief look at the single woman who chooses to have sex with a married man. Please know this article is strictly about the single woman involved in the affair. This does not get the married man off the hook, or relieve him of his responsibility to his family. He is just as guilty as the woman he is sleeping with!
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I am a single woman who was having a 5 month affair with a married man. From day one he said he was miserable in his marriage and that they had been talking about divorce for years. He had kept telling me to be patient and that divorce papers were going to be drawn up. He basically told me lies to keep me around. He never bought me anything, never took me out to the movies or out to eat, or spent any money on me at all. It was only sex. I had found out he cheats on his wife all the time and him cheating on his first wife with his second wife, who was also married at the time, is why he had got divorced in the first place. I don't understand why Hannah wrote the article to slam the single women and not the married men. If you want to say that the woman is the homewrecker and that she just gets to walk away from the mess and stick up for the man who is the one that created the problem to begin with, then you must have underlying issues that you should address. Sounds like to me, that Miss Hannah had a cheating spouse and now hates cheating women. 9 out of 10 married men who cheat are the ones who persued the woman they cheated with. And if a man who has children and a wife is cheating then I think he is the empathetic one, because how can you be equipped with feelings if you are banging your mistress while your family is sitting at home wondering where you are.
p.p.s. as you can see i have a strange, unusual complex and dilemma. it was all triggered and is virtually all perpetuated by heartless, downright cruel women.
before that neighbor dug for dirt (she did it after we moved to a new state 6 yrs ago), i had no such complex at all. i never thought about my minor learning experiences. as soon as they'd happened i was like 'oops' and became even stronger in my boundaries/morals. naturally i didn't tell people as it's very personal and not something you share.
so i had great friends in my old state, everyone could see what a moral and trustworthy person i was. i was thriving, my kids were too, my husband and i too. then we moved from a sunny state to the pacific nw. the women here seem harder, less trusting. perhaps the gloomy climate plays into that?
and Hannah, since you haven't been betrayed, you are either:
1) afraid your husband will cheat
or
2) you love to hate on other women and flaunt it to others so you can feel more POWERFUL. (this is more likely, actually it's a combo of the 2 most likely)
and you will never admit this is true but deep down you know it is.
one more thing is women and men shouldn't be judged differently. We're all humans and are all prone to making mistakes. There are various pressures for both sexes. Women's sex drives can be very strong, I've been there. I wish mine was still strong for the sake of my husband. Men can choose to control themselves and women too. But it's not always easy and mistakes can happen to good people.And then there are those people who's perspective is different than mine. They allow mistakes to happen in their marriage, more than once. Maybe they don't want to with their logic, but their sexual needs win over. And then there are those who point the finger and condemn those that they're not even involved with.And then there are those who eternally #$%$ and hate anyone w/ the slightest past. (me). and then there's me, who doesn't hate or #$%$ ANYONE. See my point?
I'm also very scrupulous and have ocd. I'm prone to guilt complexes for no reason, and prone to irrational thoughts/social phobias big time. I always have been, at least since puberty.
Sadly I'm an easy and perfect target for women who love hating other women. And I don't mean 'other women', I've never been one.
I want to see a counselor but if she's anything like you and other women I know, I don't want to. I wonder if a man counselor could help me. Would he understand how cruel women can be to their own sex?
p.s. I've learned the hard way that most women are not as strong, non-judgmental, and independent- thinking as me. I also feel they are not as loving, forgiving, and empathic.
next time some *itch tries to dig for dirt so she can exercise unrighteous power over me, if I blush, I'll be sure to not explain anything. It's none of her business. Sadly, she wants to make it her business and all other women's, so they can hate, ostracize, and hurt me forever. Ours is a cruel world.
Just so you know more about my personality...I'm shy (before becoming a mom I was painfully shy and lacked confidence), sweet, honest, intelligent, understanding, empathetic.
con't.
...I have nothing to forgive. Noone wronged me. if someone did sleep with my husband, it would be an issue between me and him, not the other woman. I would forgive my husband, and have.
I am a victim of hateful women like you Hannah. A catty neighbor dug for dirt on me 5 years ago. i vaguely recalled the minor oops 15 years ago and blushed. she assumed the worst and spread false rumors. i tried to explain and women only saw my tiny tiny mistake. and i had a one time drunken lesbian oops w/ a married gf of mine...she came after me in a bar. the only other thing is a one time limited encounter (no intercourse) w/ separated guy. him and his separated wife were both seeing other people. all 3 were 15 years ago. so women don't care about my tiny details...they just twist them and exaggerate. now the whole town hates me. sweet, strong, moral, good, faithful me.
I can't tolerate women with this sweeping hatred. It does noone good. It's destroyed my life and my kids'
con't...
I understand how men often don't want to break up a family to meet their sexual needs so they look to do it discreetly. I don't think that's always wrong even. But it's not for me...to cheat or to be with someone taken.
It sounds like you are hell bent on judging and hating women with different or lesser morals than yourself.
I think you need to get off you high horse and look in the mirror. And mind your own business. What will be will be. Love and marriage aren't perfect games. Never have been and never will be.
I've always tried to be the most moral person I can be. Due to various past abuses and unusual circumstances I did falter for a bit 15 years ago. I also flirted back to people more than i should have. But it made me a stronger, better person. It's how I roll.
Not for a second do I hate or condemn myself eternally. Nor do I hate women who have actually been with married men. I feel sorry for them, i love and try to help them. I don't judge them.
Hannah, you are being awfully judgmental and sweeping of the other woman. How could you be a counselor if you couldn't be mature enough to be understanding, empathic, and non-judgmental. You make it sound like other women can never be forgiven.
I don't think you understand how there are various factors that can lead to someone sleeping with someone else's husband. A lot of times, women don't do it to be callous to their wives. Sometimes they just don't think things through and fall for an opportunity to have sex or possibly love.
I've never slept w/ a married man or even a guy w/ a gf. I have made a smaller mistake (not emotional or kissing) 15 years ago when I was coming of age. Various circumstances in my life made me weaker at that moment. I have been approached by taken and married men. I turned them all down.
But I understand how not all women could turn them down. I understand how many men have basically sexless and sometimes loveless marriages. I understand how t