So You Want to Become Famous on Facebook?

I am regrouping my thoughts today. I have always thought if I became well-known people would like me. This is definitely not true. I believe as I become more well-known less people like me. It is like I become someone fake and they can't relate to this person. Maybe fame does that - makes people less trusting of others because the person all of a sudden has difficulty being themselves around others.

Facebook does this very same thing. It makes all of us superstars amongst our friends and peers. Everything we say and do can be broadcast with a click of a mouse.

Everyone reacts to the new phenomenon of facebook differently. Some people seem to log on, make a few friends and then eavesdrop. These are the lurkers in the background. They are also the people in the community who can make the rest of us nervous. They are the people who never post, but may randomly comment on one of your facebook posts next time you meet them. I call them ghosts.

Some people log on and begin to post and realize the power and fun of the environment. They begin making lots of friends and post everything about themselves. You know when they eat, when they use the toilet and even sometimes when they have sex. These people are nerve wrecking, because given the chance they will broadcast personal details of your life on facebook too whether you want them to or not.

Then there are the many people who post and comment, but everything is superficial. We know a lot of things they would tell anyone. Prudent, but many of us can become aggravated by their behavior. We want the bond, the secrets and the messy details of a person's life. Or do we really?

Some pop in and out of facebook like it is an annual event. You know who I am talking about. These are the people who post once a year. These are the annual people. Now you see them, now you don't.

Rare are the people who are openly honest and genuine with the entire community. I am sure these people would draw people to them in droves. However, few people want to have this kind of honesty and transparency with the entire community.

It seems what we are looking for on facebook is better found in real life establishing genuine friendships with real people. When it is done in the virtual realm, well it is just that - virtual.