Social Me: My Experience on a Facebook Rating Community

First let me say I'm a very happily married woman. But I'll admit I've done this so you don't have to.

So yesterday while taking a break from what was on my desk, I noticed that a friend had social'ed me as crazy through a Facebook application. Indeed he has known me long enough to make that assessment, but I wanted to know what that was all about.

So I sign right into Facebook and the add the Social Me application and I put up what I think is an artsy photo of me. Okay it's a rating community, but I think it's just for friends and I'm fine with that. Fun. And I hardly ever go on Facebook, so whatever. But I check back and see that someone has rated me. A stranger. And then more and more. And these suckers are coming like every minute so I'm totally obsessed with checking back and I'm getting absolutely no work done. And I'm getting all angry when some ridiculous guy rates me as ridiculous or silly or nerdy (even if I am all of those things). And I'm finding myself wanting to write back to them with some stinging insult. In fact, I did write back to one guy who rated me as drunk. Drunk? My response was a bit impulsive but all I said was that I was sober but exhausted, not drunk, rather than the four-page note i really wanted to type up about how I had had one of the worse nights of my life the night before and who was he...and his mother dresses him funny...you get it. After that I replaced my artsy photo with one of me and my husband. One that my friends have said I look pretty hot in. And a ton of the new ratings appear (they are coming in so fast) and people start rating me as happy. Not hot. Not sexy. Not gorgeous. Not cute or even cool. Also not ridiculous and silly, but not the point. And then the kiss of death: smart.

Smart and happy. Well, yeah, I'm smart and happy. But isn't the point of these rating communities to tell you how hot and sexy you are? So once again I'm the pretty girl's (not even cute) smart and happy friend. And then I keep checking because it's 5:45, I'm still at work, I'm exhausted from manuscript issues, and really just want the ego boost. (You know you all do it for the ego boost. Perhaps not always, but it may happen once. You don't have to admit it. I'll do that for you-this is the only rating community I've ever been a part of. And even then, unknowingly. Not that I removed the app when I discovered what it really was. No, you see how I handled that.)

In the end I deleted that app. Mostly because I felt a little silly (even without some goober telling me that) and also because I totally yelled at my husband when I found out he was on one a few weeks back so now I felt like a hypocrite. Mostly for the first reason.

That said, I am not in any way asking for you all to leave me comments on just how cute and hot and sexy I am. I'm not. Not in any way. Not one bit. Nope.

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