Spending Thanksgiving Alone? How to Cope

Jody Morse
There are certain situations in which a person may need to spend Thanksgiving alone. It may be because your spouse has to work or is in the army, your children are spending the holiday with their mother or father or you are unable get home for the holiday, for whatever reason. No matter what the situation is, spending Thanksgiving or any other holiday alone can be very difficult. Many find it to be quite depressing. Here, we will take a much closer look at some of the things that you can do to cope with spending the Thanksgiving holiday alone.

Try to Stick to Many of Your Own Thanksgiving Day Traditions

Although there are certain traditions that you will be unable to follow when you spend Thanksgiving alone, there are many things that you can do to try to stick to many of your own traditions. For example, if you still want to eat turkey on Thanksgiving, you can consider buying it in frozen dinner or lunch meat form. For other foods, just cook enough for yourself. If you always watch the movie Home Alone on Thanksgiving night or a parade on tv in the morning, watch it like you normally would. Some people find comfort in sticking to their own traditions during a holiday, regardless of whether or not anyone is there to spend it with them.

Break Away From Thanksgiving Traditions and Pamper Yourself

Sometimes breaking away from tradition can be a good thing. If you feel comfortable doing so, then go for it. Think positively about spending Thanksgiving alone. Since you will not be celebrating it with other people, you are able to do whatever you want on Thanksgiving. You may want to consider pampering yourself, or doing all of the things that you enjoy doing but are unable to throughout the year. Whether you choose to sleep in, stay up late watching movies or take a relaxing bath, the main key is to turn Thanksgiving into a day to pamper yourself. This will make the entire idea of spending Thanksgiving alone seem so much more appealing.

Consider Helping Someone Else on Thanksgiving to Keep Busy

Although soup kitchens are often associated with Christmas, it is important to keep in mind that you can participate in one during Thanksgiving also. For many people, the joy that is associated with the holidays comes from helping out others. It is likely that you will feel a whole lot better about spending the Thanksgiving holiday alone when you are helping out other people. It is a great way to interact with others and feel good about how you have spent your time by helping out the community.

Occupy Yourself With Home Improvement Projects on Thanksgiving

If you have been meaning to clean out your closet or paint one of the rooms in your home, why not do it while you are alone with nothing else to do? It is likely that keeping yourself busy with this type, or any other type, of project will help you keep your mind off of the fact that you are alone on Thanksgiving. Better yet, you will get something that you have been meaning to do done.

Volunteer Yourself to Work on Thanksgiving Day if Possible

If your place of employment is open on Thanksgiving, there is a good chance that someone at work who wants to be at home with their family on Thanksgiving, but is not able to be. If you are not going to be spending time with your own family, why not volunteer yourself to work? Although you might not want to work on Thanksgiving day, you can help out someone else who really wants to be at home with their family. This is also a great way to keep yourself occupied and interact with other people on Thanksgiving.

Think Twice Before Calling Home on Thanksgiving Day

Calling home on Thanksgiving day can be very beneficial to some people. Not only will you get to talk to people you may have not spoken to in awhile during one phone call, but you may also find comfort in calling home on Thanksgiving when you cannot be there. On the other hand, calling home when you really wish that you could be there may make you feel more depressed about spending Thanksgiving alone. It is a good idea to give the idea of calling home on Thanksgiving day more thought before deciding to go ahead with it.

As you can see, there are many things that you can do to cope when you have to spend the Thanksgiving holiday alone. It is a good idea for you to take all of these ideas into consideration before deciding how you will spend your Thanksgiving holiday when you are alone. The most important thing to realize is that there are ways to keep your mind off of how depressing spending a holiday alone can be and find ways to keep yourself occupied on Thanksgiving.

Published by Jody Morse - Featured Contributor in Health & Wellness

Jody Morse has a B.A. in English from East Stroudsburg University. As a sufferer of endometriosis, she enjoys writing about women's health issues. She has worked as an assistant wedding DJ, and is dabbling i...  View profile

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  • Robbie11/25/2010

    Thanksgiving is a Christianized, White man holiday which in my belief should not be forced on all americans. I think the Post Office, Banks, Government,etc should stay open. Christmas is not a Christian Holiday. It is a pagan celebration of the Winter Solstace which was borrowed by the Christians. Jesus never was born on Christmas Day and that also people spend too much on commercialized things. One day it will no longer be celebrated throughout the world as more and more people are leaving the Christian religion in favor of non Christian beliefs.

    As for spending Thanksgiving and Other "Holidays" alone, I am used to it. People shouldn't feel like they have to celebrate Fourth of July (I don't and also disrespect the American FLag by burning it)don't celebrate Halloween (actually another pagan holiday but I don't celebrate it because it's demeaning and sexualized.
    Easter is a pagan holiday. But it's too commercialized. Anything the white man has do

  • lmart11/21/2010

    yes, spending holidays alone can be difficult. but I am actually spending this thanksgiving by myself by choice (no seriously). I had the chance to travel home (over 9 hours) and spend with the family (who don't all get along) for this 4 day vacation (which i would have spent 2 days driving back and forth after working double shifts for the last 3 weeks straight). So it's true, called up mom and told her if she didn't mind I wouldn't be making the trip this year. And I am completely honest that I'm looking forward to a day when I don't have to call anyone, respond to any emails, go anywhere, and the only thing I have to do is RELAX! Its not the first time I've had to spend alone, had a few years where I lived too far from home. It was hard the first time, but I've learned to embrace and rather than dread it, I plan ahead each year and make sure I have fun things to eat, a good DVD or two, my favorite bubble bath, a fluffy pillow and fresh sheets an

  • Holi11/21/2010

    That's very thoughtful advice for anyone who is caught alone when they have family elsewhere! It gets a little harder if you don't have family anywhere. But it's not hopeless. Connect with people who need you to be their extended family as much as you need them. Take a look at www.CreatingExtendedFamilies.com

  • If it helps releive the pain...10/29/2010

    Thankgiving is not Thanksgiving at all. Thousands of Indians were slautered this day. How is it a day of Thanksgiving? Look it up! Don't feed into what society feeds you.

  • Lonely Mom11/26/2009

    I am going to get myself a cooked Lobster at a Asian market. Then I am going to watch a new movie. If I have time after, I go visit my son in a hospital. At least try to pamper yourself when you have nothing to look forward.

  • sweetsara11/22/2007

    i just spent thanksgiving alone. it was okay. i bought a dinner from outside from this bbq place and the guys at the counter were asking me if i was having dinner alone.
    i just told them the take-out was for someone else who wasnt going anywhere, but for myself, i was "going somewhere else." I knew it was a lie but it helped me get through the day. Plus i got to nosh in front of the tv by myself. i watched all the thanksgiving episodes of friends, and everybody loves raymond. now the day is ending and im going to treat myself to a movie. i hope everyone else had a great day. bye.

  • doa11/22/2007

    I'll probably just kill myself. thank god its all over with.

  • Peter Olczyk11/15/2007

    I just moved from chicago to philadelphia this week and this will be my first holiday alone. I'm so used to cooking on holidays for my family. It will be very strange not having anyone to be with.

  • Lynn11/13/2007

    I really don't know what to do as Glide Church is full and needs no more volunteers for that day. I don't want to get depressed. Thank you for the article!

  • Kassidy Emmerson10/31/2007

    I used to have to work most every Thanksgiving at a job where I was by myself...talk about lonely! I'm so thankful that's in the past and I can enjoy the holiday with my family. :-)

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