Spice Up Your Sex Life With Fantasy Role Play

Have you ever considered adding fantasy role playing into your bedroom repertoire? This entertaining game of revving up new excitement in your love-making has been around for centuries. People have dressed up, dressed down, dressed in uniform or other adornments to woo their loves. Creating a new look or resurrecting an old one can add zip and zing to your relationship faster than you can say "make-believe."

Role playing, a term often used in the gaming and theatrical industries, by basic definition is merely the act of imitating a specific type of character. As children, we role play without giving a second thought to the nature or implication of the action. Running around as firemen, cowboys, or superheroes, we impersonate the characters we most identify with, using our imaginations to transport us to new worlds and infinite possibilities.

The trick to successful fantasy role play with your partner is to capture some of the same uninhibited freedom of youth and notch it up a scale, bringing a new level of fun to your sex lives. It's a safe way to explore the fantasy of being with someone else for a night, while still remaining in the arms of the one we're committed to at the present time. It's a great way to let loose and step outside the realm of your life, mimicking roles you desire or admire. It's all these things and so much more.

Whether a private eye/damsel-in-distress fantasy or a cocky star-fighter/feisty princess scenario is what you desire, it's important to set the stage prior to the curtain call. Showing up on your lovers doorstep unannounced, on any other night than Halloween, in a vampiress-gone-dominatrix get-up might not get you the intimate role play attention you crave. Especially if he/she happens to have out-of-town relatives visiting.

After making the decision to offer fantasy role play into your relationship, follow these three simple steps to ensure your success prior to the event.

Step One: Involve your partner.

From the start, engage your significant other in a conversation about fantasy role play and your interest in it. Gage their reactions, explore their willingness, and find out what ideas they might have.

If bringing up the topic out of the blue seems too conspicuous to you, wait for a prime opportunity, such as right after watching a movie together. Mention how much you liked the western theme of the film and how you've always thought about seeing him/her in a pair of cowboy boots wheedling a six shooter. Then take things from there, talking about how you see yourself, what you'd like to do if they agreed to wearing the props, and so on.

The most important thing to remember is to encourage your partner's interest in role playing with you.

This is not to say that a spontaneous role play is out of the question. If you are certain your partner would love to have you dressed in a mock-police officer uniform, barge in his office, handcuff him to the desk and say "you're under arrest" - then by all means, go for it!

Step Two: Set the stage.

Once you and your mate are in sync about which role play episode you'd like to explore, it's time to figure out when, where, and how to best carry out the mutual fantasy.

Most role play fantasies can be played out without ever leaving the confines of your abode. Determine a date and time, choose a room or rooms to carry out the role playing, and proceed from there. If you want to be more elaborate, simply determine the best location for beginning your fantasy. Is there a hotel in the area where you could meet while impersonating your characters, or another convenient location where you'd have easy access to heating up the adventure without breaking any laws in the process? Be as simple or as elaborate as you wish, and certainly, as your budget will allow.

Determine what props, decorations, clothing, or other items you might need, as well. Keep in mind this is make-believe and you don't have to have authentic items to create the illusion, nor do you necessarily want to always have "real" props in your play. If you have a pirate fantasy in mind, a toy scabbard slipped between the legs to part them could be highly erotic. A real scabbard, on the other hand, might result in an emergency room visit.

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Once you have your agenda and your gear, let loose and have fun with your playmate. Remember you are there to enjoy each other in a new way and to indulge in your newly created fantasy bubble.

Step Three: Establish some ground rules.

While the purpose is to let go of your "real personas" when you are engaged in your fantasy roles, it's best to openly discuss ahead of time with your partner what is acceptable and what is not. You may know each other very well, but when character-acting, you may be surprised to see a new side or unexpected things from yourself or your partner while participating in your role play adventures. Most often, this will lead to some wild times and passionate moments. Yet, there's a small chance, the role play could go south, and not to the southern regions you desire.

To prevent this from happening, set some ground rules ahead of time. Most importantly, establish a way to communicate to each other that the role playing is making you uncomfortable and another to communicate the role play needs to stop.

This may seem easy on the surface. Why not just say, "hey this is making me uncomfortable," or "Stop!"? There are two main reasons you may want to come up with alternatives to the obvious solutions. 1) They may throw you completely out of the fantasy role play mood and 2) They may be misinterpreted by your partner or yourself as being part of the role play.

For example: If you are playing the role of the submissive maid whose duty is to protest her rich employer's advances, shouting "Stop!" might be misinterpreted by playmate as being part of your attempt to immerse yourself in the role. By the time they realize the mistake, things might have gotten to a point you are both unhappy with.

The alternative? Make the code or phrases something you'll both easily recognize and perhaps even find amusing. The momentary laughter could easily alleviate an uncomfortable situation and give you needed time to regroup and reconnect as a couple.

For example: If your fantasy role play involves a reenactment of coveted scene between Guinevere and Lancelot, chances are a safe phrase to use for stop would be "cookie monster."

You've Got the Look

If you go through the three suggested steps ahead of time to set up your fantasy role play affair, you should be in for a rewarding playtime and an adventure you and your partner will thoroughly enjoy. The break from the norm will add sparks to your love fire and keep the passions burning for a long time to come.

The sky is the limit. Start simple or be elaborate in your plans. Only you, your partner, and your finances will dictate the constraints of your role playing adventures. As you become more adventurous or partake in more role playing scenarios, think up new ways to add more excitement. Perhaps consider scripting your roles ahead of time, trying new locations, donning wigs, agreeing to special indulgences or toys saved for your role play time only-whatever tickles the actress in you.

Even if you find that fantasy role play is not something you and your partner wish to continue, you'll have spent an imaginative evening together and maybe learned a thing or two about what revs your partners motor.

Maybe you'll find out that shy guy or girl really likes to take control sometimes. Or that feather boas are mighty fine arousal devices.

Go on, take the chance, have a little fun, and let go. You never know what's waiting for you after the curtain call!