Stale Relationships: Getting Past the Preliminaries

The man could not get enough of the young lady since the day he met her, which was two weeks ago; they practically did everything together: Shopping, dinner, movies, and even went to her volunteer mentoring program. They spent more than 15 hours out of their day together. Needless to say, that before either one of them retired for the night, they were on the phone, saying their good-byes. But the good-byes lasted to nearly four in the morning.

During the third week, the man began to feel smothered after he wanted to hang out with some of his coworkers, and the young lady wanted to 'tag' along. A heated argument started between the two and before either one had realized, they had broken off the relationship.

Now, a week had passed and the two were miserable, still wanting to be together aside of the horrible argument and break-up. But, neither one wanted to be first to apologize.

There have been many recorded statistics that prove the number one contributing factor to break-ups is miscommunication. When you don't have communication in your relationships, you're almost doomed to failure. But don't take my word for it, try it and see for yourself! And this miscommunication generally begins during the preliminaries of a relationship. I say preliminaries because this is the beginning stages of the relationship; a time when you two are getting to know one another, and things are being established in the relationship. Now, if a person in this preliminary stage, is starting out by not expressing themselves, or are being submissive for fear of rejection-They are doing the wrong thing. Always stay honest and sincere of your intentions from the start, and there should be no confusion.

Another factor would be the fact that the two are soaking up too much time together. You have to have a breather; a time to allow you two to miss one another. It's often that when we meet someone new and special, we get all excited and hungry for their time, affection and acknowledgement. I'm not saying that this is wrong, but it may be a bit selfish. Even though you may see some good qualities in a person, doesn't mean that they are the one, nor does it say that you will be together forever. This just simply means that you may have a lot in common, or this person satisfies you in ways that you may need them to. And this makes another point; if you really like someone, and enjoy their company, you don't have to spend every waking moment with that person. Sometimes you need a break, or other activities to keep your conversations alive.

Some people can spend every breathe with another person and see no problem with; but I don't understand how they can. But, to each their own. I have known some relationships to last with both parties being okay with spending everyday and every night together. Now, tell me would you classify these types as clingy? I ask this because if they enjoy being 'smothered' by their mate, is it like that simply because they need that attention, that security?