Starting a Relationship with a Prison Inmate

If you would like to begin a relationship with a prison inmate, then this is the tutorial to read. Do not enter into anything hastily because you are excited. If your inmate is pressuring you to quickly begin a relationship, think about why they may be doing this, for it may not be a safe situation.

Before you begin. Before the relationship is set up, sit back and think about why you would like to have one. Does it in any way have to do with loneliness or low self esteem? Inmates live in a world of black and white, and being manipulated or whipped around because of your own emotional weaknesses is harmful to them. Make a decision concerning being in a relationship with them of your own accord and on your own time. Recognize your flaws, what you are looking to get out of the relationship and how long you expect it to last. Will they be leaving prison soon, and do you have any hope that they will stay out this time? Think about what you would do in certain situations, for example, the circumstance in which you need physical loving and they are not available to give it to you. Have all of these things thought out before you begin a relationship with your prison inmate.

Protect yourself and your assets. After you are in a relationship with your inmate, keep in mind that you may be called on to perform certain functions through power-of-attorney. Be ready to provide these services without endangering your own assets. Make sure that, out of the goodness of your heart, you do not do something like put your inmate on your bank account or give them access to your valuable assets.

Due to the danger of other inmates accessing their property, remember to never send bank account numbers or financial papers through the mail. One never knows when someone may rifle through and gain this information. If your inmate has any critical records with your information on them, be sure to ask them to tear those papers into tiny bits and throw them away. Keep your personal address and information safe by making sure that your photos do not contain any relevant location data in the background. Many inmates are able to determine where a person lives by the background scenery and clues.

Protect your reputation. As exciting as a new relationship is, remember that the feedback from others will be rather strong, influential and very negative. Only tell two or three trusted friends about your new relationship and do not allow anyone to have concrete data to confirm the relationship with your prison inmate. Also, if you should change your mind in the future about the romance, you do not want a lot of knowing smirks and I-told-you-so looks to be around you when it happens. You may decide, in the future, to make the relationship permanent and you will want the permanence to already be in place before you make the announcement to others.

Starting a new relationship with a prison inmate is like starting a journey into a secret world of hope, sincerity and new dreams. Protect this world by evaluating how long and what sort of relationship it will be, keeping your assets safe and by revealing the information to only a select few.

Sources:

http://www.dc.state.ks.us/