Stay-At-Home Moms Vs Working Moms
What's the Difference?
Let's start with working moms. They have it pretty hard and get less time with their children. Especially single moms who are working full time to support their family. It's surely no easy task and it can be highly stressful for her. Of course, there are pros and cons to being a working mother, just as everything has ups and downs. Working mothers do bring home a regular pay check usually, and therefore may have a little extra spending money. This may not be so for single mothers or mothers who are the only ones working in the house. Often times, working mothers will have to pay for daycare for their children unless they are already in elementary school. As many of us know, daycar is far from cheap these days. Unfortunately, working mothers may not get to spend as much time with their children and/or spouses as they would like. This is not always the case, but it is rather common. Some mothers would prefer to work than stay at home with their children, while others don't have a choice and have to work to survive. To be a working mother is surely a tough task. Once you have been at work all day, you have to come home and clean, cook, do laundry, and everything else! Unless you have a maid or some kind of helping hand, you have to get the work done. Working moms deserve much applause for their effort and energy to be able to perform their jobs everyday.
Stay-at-home moms are no different. They work around the house, doing laundry, cleaning, and cooking. On top of their daily chores they need to get done, they have to keep up with their child(ren) all day. Anyone who has children, especially infants and toddlers will know, this is no easy task! Children are a hand full and often times, they require your undivided attention. See, a stay-at-home mom actually works just as hard as a working mom. If you have ever worked in a daycare, you may understand or at least have an idea of what it's like to be a stay-at-home mom. Keeping up with your child(ren) all day is very tiresome. Just like working a full time job, you're beat when the day is up. Many people seem to have an opinion that stay-at-home moms have it made. In a way, they do because they are able to spend their days with their children and see all of their "firsts". However, it is just as stressful for them as a full time working mother. Stay-at-home moms deserve just as much respect as anyone else.
Whether you are a working mom or stay-at-home mom, you're job is not easy by any stretch of the imagination. Being a mom period can be hard enough sometimes, let alone having your daily cleaning and responsibilities. Either way, it's fun, but it can be hard at times as well. All good mothers deserve respect no matter what, they work hard and have to have a ton of energy to do their everyday jobs.
Published by LeQuire
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18 Comments
Post a CommentAfter the children go off to school you are either working or staying at home. The mum part is when the kids are back home from school..( after your free time)
Vacation day! Got up at 6am instead of 4:45am, got son to school by 8, even ran into say hi to his teacher. Did food shopping on the way home, marinated the London Broil for tonight, and now with both the washing machine and dishwasher going, I'm sitting here at my computer on my 3rd cup of coffee. Walking the dogs in a bit. House can use a quick clean, but I have plenty of time to do that before I drop a bag off at Goodwill on the way to pick my son up at 2 to take him for his road test and then onto his EMT class where I 'll get him at 8 and then back to finish up my final paper. FYI I am posting this at 9:45am.
I think that women should be more accepting of each other and the different roles we all have. Sometimes we are able to decide what we feel is best for our families and do it; while sometimes situations occur that force us to maybe not be a stay at home mom or to be able to afford the daycare to be a working mom. Either way supporting each other and our various situations rather then constantly taking out our petty jealousy or anger at the "other group" does nothing for us as a people.
wow, i just now read the rest of the posts. I will tell you I cant possibly afford to get my nails done, i even cut my own hair, I have holes in my underwear. Not to bash woman at work but unless you are doing hard labor, sitting around at work chatting making jokes and gossiping is not very hard to do. Just the noise of four kids screaming and fighting and tattling can drive you up the wall and insane and then people that have not respect for the true role of a woman.... thats just trash
I forgot to add in that stay at home moms get no respect these days either. It is deffinately harder emotionally to stay home. I have been in both situations as well. I felt more youthfull and better about myself as a working mother but I think for me staying home is the right thing. People with more than two kids are more forced to stay at home anyway. it just doesnt pay to work and i would rather raise my own kids the way i see fit.
I just have to add in that stay at homes dont get very much adult time or alone time for that matter and most struggle to make ends meet with one income and make a lot of sacrifices as well as the whole family
As a mom who has been on both sides of the fence I can honestly say both situations are challenging. I have three children all under the age of 4yrs old I stay home because the cost of child care is outrageous , it was difficult at first as someone who has worked since high school but now I feel it's rewarding being able to be a true part of who they become. I also don't really find that I have time to be part of a "mommy clique" that's just crap if that's what people think being a stay at home mom is about they are really uninformed.
So no, I do not have a lot of fondness for the stay at home helicopter mothers and the PTA phonies, but I know that I can and do support myself and my family emotionally and financially and do not need to try to fit in with this clique. Yes, I would love to stay home, so I would have time to RELAX!!! After I drop the kids off and get my hair and nails done, and my grocery shopping done, lets meet up for lunch - I have 5 hours to kill!
In reply: I only came upon this website in searching for "Working Parents", so I do not troll all day looking to bash SAHM. My children that I raised by myself while working full time are not selfish, one is a medic in Afghanistan, another is finishing up his EMT training. I am not a sad, sad person. I do not like the whole rabid behavior of women that stay at home long past the time their children are of school age so they can be part of a clique straight out of high school. A personal experience I had was getting blamed for starting an anonymous petition calling for a coach to get removed from my son's school because of "his foul language." I only found out about it because a friend who HAD TAKEN A DAY OFF FROM WORK TO GO TO A PTA MEETING overheard the biddies talking about me and she called me at work to tell me. The ones who started the petition blamed it on me because they knew their husbands would get mad and thought I would never find out because I
MP, What a sad, sad life you must have as a true "working woman", if that is all you have to say about mother's who stay at home. Obviously, you musn't be as absolutely busy as you claim to be, if you have time to go on message boards such as these and berate the average SAHM. Just an fyi, unless you live in Ritzville, USA, a lot of mothers stay at home to save money on childcare and other expenses, and very few mothers I know sit around eating bon bons, or go to these supposed "coffee shops" you speak of in your ridiculously offensive post. You are sadly, one of those affected by the 60's generation that feels absolutely no self worth, unless it is identified in you as a "working woman." There is nothing at all wrong with not paying some stranger to raise your children, and giving up things you may have wanted out of your life in order to commit yourself to your kids. You are selfish, and your kids are probably just as much so as a result of y