Steps in a Family Intervention

Family Interventions have become somewhat famous thanks to an A & E TV show called Interventions. The show highlights people dealing with substance abuse issues and the confrontations that occur in an effort to confront the addict with their problem and need for help. Anyone who has seen the show can attest to the emotional encounters between family, friends, counselors and the addict. One wonders if this is really how an intervention should take place. For just a minute put yourself in the shoes of an addict. This person probably has lost most or all of their self-confidence, and is feeling low about themselves. Family and friends confront the person about their addiction and need for help, but according to the show, it often looks accusatory and degrading, rather than helpful. Is there a better way to do a family intervention and if so what would the steps look like?

The premise of an intervention is to bring attention to the issues before the persons who has the problem becomes more addicted or harms himself or others even further. An addict often could care less about themselves, loved one, money or a job. Their every thought relates to the substance they are abusing and the money they need to buy it. Often times they wills steal from family, pawn items, or even sell themselves to get money for their addiction. An intervention may not be pretty and feelings and emotions will run high. However, there is a right way to organize and carry out a family intervention.

Plan Who Will Attend

The point is not to degrade the person, but to provide support from those that are closest to the addict. Inviting an ex spouse, previous friend or someone they know as an acquaintance will not work. With other family members, make a list of those that are close to the addict. Decide as a family if the intervention is for family members only or friends also. Sometimes a best friend can be a great aid in an intervention. By this time, the person's addiction is probably no longer a hidden secret, so inviting a friend is probably not an issue. Decide who will act as the leader. Someone will need to intervene if things get out of hand or arguments ensue.

Rehearse the Intervention

Because emotions will be running high during the intervention, members of the intervention team will want to assemble and practice how the intervention will go. By practicing the basics of what to say, the intervention has a better chance of being a success. Remind members that statements should be honest but said with love. In addition, tell members that crying is permitted and does not a sign of weakness. Advise everyone that the addict will probably be defensive and in denial that they have a problem. The team should understand that their part is limited and the ultimate responsibly for change and treatment lies with the addict.

Plan the Location, Time and Follow-up Treatment

Plan a time and location for the intervention. All team members need to be there on time. Late stragglers will distract from the goal of the meeting. After finding a location, set a time. Do not tell the addict they are going to an intervention, as they may not attend. Simply tell them family and friends want to talk to them. It amounts to the same thing, but is a matter of wording. The location should be neutral territory where the addict feels safe. Have treatment prearranged in case the intervention is successful and the addict admits they have a problem. Only a professional can determine the type of treatment needed. Pack in advance for in patient treatment. If too much time elapses between the intervention and treatment, the person may relapse into denial about their problem. Debrief what happened with intervention team members. Tell members that they will continue to be an important part in the treatment and recovery of the substance abuser.

With successful planning and the right attitude, an intervention can be successful. The road to recovery will not be easy and the addict needs to know those he loves will be there for him for the long haul.

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