Still Loving a Soul Mate You've Lost
Sometimes a soul mate relationship may break up not because you've stopped loving each other, but because of other reasons such as, problems that can't seemed to be solved among the couple, one person was not ready for a commitment, or because the couple believes they have grown apart. However, this does not mean either or both stopped loving each other, and are truly meant for one another. It just means at that time and place things were not meant to be.
Most of us have heard the stories about high school sweethearts that break up and many years later after various relationships, marriages, and kids, the two get together and end up married. Are they soul mates destined to be together no matter what led them astray in the first place? I believe this can be true. Even though things may not have been right for them at a previous time, and perhaps each needed to learn some things in life first, they were destined to end up together somewhere in time.
If you have ever experienced having a soul mate, you know what you feel is different from anyone else you have ever loved. It doesn't mean you didn't love those other people, it just means they weren't "The One". The one that makes you feel like life is complete when they're in your life, and when their not, something very special is missing. It's a longing when they are not in your life that cannot be explained, just felt.
So what happens when your soul mate, the one you know deep in your heart was supposed to be just for you, and you just for them is not in your life anymore? Well, in plain English it hurts. I personally believe that nothing else can fill that void not matter how hard you try. Yes, sometimes for whatever reasons you may not be able to be with your soul mate ever again. This I believe is probably the hardest thing to accept. And yes, you may have to move on because of this fact. But unfortunately it doesn't make it any easier. Many people who lose a soul mate later in life to death, never re-marry or have another love in their life ever again. They feel they have had their one perfect love, and they are satisfied with that.
Some people who lose a soul mate when their younger that's not through death, have a harder time with accepting they may never have them back. Perhaps it is true they may never have them back, but perhaps again, they may end up together again some where in time. Most would like to think maybe someday, as this seems to help with the longing they feel along the way. There's something about never to be ever again, that most people do not like to accept. Perhaps if destiny has it's way they may not have to.
Well I must say I am a true believer in the saying "Never Say Never". Too many couples over the years have proven when destiny makes you soul mates, some where, somehow, you will find each other again. Yes, miraculously somewhere in time!
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Post a CommentThere is not one day I do not think about my soul mate I have lost. I can still feel him and I know I will always do. This kind of love never dies. It lingers and stays with you forever.
We were just not meant to be at that time and place.
But I can still smile as I cherish the time I spent with him and I am happy I experienced it despite the giant hole it left in my heart.
Because I'd rather live an instant with him than a lifetime without him.
I would like to respond to Robert O. Adair. Thank you for what you have said. I have only just lost my whole life. I will pick up a book of Tenneyson. I understand his writings are wonderful. Just haven't had the chance to read his works..
First time I have ever posted a comment.
Thank you again Robert O.Adair
I lost my soulmate twice in my life. Once when I was in my early 20's and we went our separate ways & I regretted it for many years as I was the one who broke up with him. He ended up moving out of state but I never forgot him. Nearly 15 years later, we met again and instantly felt the deep bond & connection. At that time we were both married so we decided to stay in our marriages. However, 5 years later we were both divorced/divorcing but had a long-distance relationship as he still lived out of state from me. I have to say that it was the distance that did him in. He found someone local to be with instead of moving back to his hometown (where I am).Broke my heart in a million pieces. Having a hard time everyday as I thought we were going to be together once he moved...at least that was 'the plan'. I know a couple of my girlfriends are my "soulmates" but I have never had a "soulmate" in man. Not even my ex-husband.
I lost my soulmate. He left me for various reasons I cannot control. His family was awful and didn't like me, even though i was good to him and a great gf. I wanted to move out of state and he decided he didnt. He was still partyin with friends and family members at the age of 26 and didnt want to stop. Eventually he pushed me away and then left me. I keep my eyes open for a great guy though. In the future, I dont know if i would trust it enough to take him back. Even though he is my soulmate. This is second time a year later he left me. He is running. He cant face things about himself or about his family/friends.
We stood there in my hallway, hugging each other, telling each other that we can't lose one another...I have not seen him since. For anyone out there who has lost the love of your life, I know what it feels like, and I'm here.
I met my soulmate two years ago. We had one of the worst first dates ever, I sat there the entire time watching the minutes pass until it was over, but no matter what we always kept in contact. After going through some things, we became really close at one point, and thats when I learned what real love is. Growing together, and learning from one another. It was one of the happiest times in my life. After a few months however, he started to become distant. Things came between us that I never expected, and our destinys got pulled away from one another. I lost so much when I lost him. A friend, a lover, a companion. Losing him was hard, but saying goodbye has been significantly harder. There isn't a day that has gone by in the past year where I haven't thought about him. It's as if the script keeps playing in my head as he came over here, held my hand, and let me go. I told him I couldn't lose him, and as hard as I tried to fight it, I lost him anyways. We stood there in m
My so called "soulmate" aborted my first child and ran off to marry another dude she meet in the club. This was the second time we were together. Theirs no such thing as a soulmate.
I met my soulmate at a dude ranch in 1966 - yes, 44 years ago! I was from L.I. and he was from N.J. We both felt at the time that we had known each other for years, and everything felt so "right" to me, like all the puzzle pieces falling into place.
Unfortunately, my feelings for him were so strong and so different from anything I had ever felt before that it scared the daylights out of me. I couldn't handle my emotions at the time, so I foolishly broke it off with him afterward and kept telling him "No" when he wanted to come out and see me.
We both moved on in life, but never a day has gone by since that I didn't regret my actions, think of him and hope that by some miracle we'd meet again someday. I was sure that we were meant to be together in the end.
I recently learned that he died in October, 2010, and I am grieving so hard you'd think that I'd been with him all those years, which, of course, I haven't. So, yes, it is true t
I blew the chance to be with mine and it hurts everyday to not be with her. I still love her and always will.
Very interesting! I will never get over the loss of my wife but I am moving on and will probably find someone. Tenneyson said it very well: "Oh, for the touch of a vanished hand/ and the sound of a voice that is still!"