Stop Doing Things You Are Not Good At

Everyone wants to be successful. It's important to set goals and reach them. It builds self confidence. It helps to improve the quality of life. However, why is it we keep trying and working towards things we don't do well? What ever it is, we need to evaluate and stop doing the things that we are not good at and we get no benefit from.

Here are some of the tools one could use to help make the decision if this is something that should be removed from the to-do list forever.

1. Do you truly enjoy the activity or process?

Chad is a really bad surfer. Practice has not seemed to make him any better at the activity and it does not look like he is going to master the sport. However, if Chad still finds the process of trying to fun and a good form of exercise, then there is another question to consider? Chad would consider if performing at the current level only would cause him undo stress or if he is will to stay with the statusquo. If undue stress is involved, the activity is crossed off the list.

2. Why am I doing this?

Does this need to be accomplished as a job requirement? Is it required for school? Those types of things can't be left undone, but they be done to a good enough stage. This means the person does their individual best and then feels good enough to walk away from the task. For example, in C- in calculus may truly be the best available grade for an individual. Accept it and move on.

3. Can I pay someone to do a better and more efficient job?

Sometimes it pays, to pay. For example, Randy likes, wants, desires and demands a clean house. Tristen is not a good housekeeper. She doesn't like it. When she does it it is not a good job. It is better for everyone to hire a cleaning person and pay for the services. Tristen's time is better spent doing things she is better with, like making the money to pay the cleaning person.

There are people who love to make crafts and people who love to have home their look like they love crafts. These people should join forces and everyone will be pleased.

4. Bucket list theory

If one knew that they were going to be dead in thirty days, what would the bucket list look like? It probably would include things that have never been done or that one enjoys doing, not something that one does poorly. There is a lesson in there somewhere.

5. Who am I trying to please?

It is important that we identify who we are spending our time pleasing. For some it may be their higher power. For others it may be their family members. For some they are simply trying to prove to those who don't care for them that they have value. Evaluate who you are trying to please and make any changes necessary.

Spend time as wisely as you would money. Do the things you love and are good at!