Stop Resenting Others Success to Get Out of the Way of Your Own Success

Have you ever driven by a gated community and felt resentment? Do you feel "less than" because some people have more of something than you do, more money, more education, more success, better relationships? Where does that feeling come from, and what can you do about it?

It's called projection. Projection means seeing in others qualities that we reject in ourselves, our so-called shadow. Generally psychologists speak of shortcomings like a quick temper or being a gossip, traits that we don't want to recognize in ourselves. We immediately dislike anyone who has personality traits that we share but don't like in ourselves.

However, we also project onto others the qualities we would like to have but feel that we don't have. A woman who feels unattractive may resent women that she thinks are more attractive. She is giving those other women her beauty. A man may resent others who seem to be more athletic or successful, giving them his energy instead of using that energy to build his own success.

People are often most irritated by others whom they perceive as having those things that they want because they project their brilliance onto others by comparison. Projection is irrational, of course, but the feelings that irrational thinking produces are the kind that get in the way of being able to attract what is desired and being able take appropriate action.

It is much easier to complain about how unfair life is than it is to find out how that other person has achieved what we want. It is easier to sit in front of the tube and gripe about the state of the world than it is to take action even to feel better about ourselves.

Can you take back your brilliance? Can you claim your own talents and qualities, and stop projecting them onto celebrities or coworkers? You cannot see that brilliance in others unless you have it, and if you are projecting it, that means that you refuse to see your own abilities.

Do this experiment for a week. Every time you feel resentment or make a comparison between yourself and someone else who seems "more than" you, ask yourself, what part of your brilliance you have projected.

If you resent someone's skill, list your own skills, which are just as valuable, even though they are easy for you to do. Those skills are your brilliance. If you resent beauty, how can you reveal more of your own beauty? If you resent success, list your own successes, and you do have some or you would not be able to read this article.

Take back your brilliance. Lose the resentment, and recognize yourself for you who are. When you start focusing on the things you want, instead of resenting that others have what you want, you clear the way for those things to come to you.

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