Stop Saying "I Want to Find a Girlfriend" and Find One!

Learning to Meet and Attract a Girlfriend Requires Action!

Odalis Bitterroot
If you find yourself saying "I want to find a girlfriend" repeatedly, you need to take action. Instead of spending your days lamenting your loneliness, it's time to get out there and meet someone. The odds of the girl of your dreams knocking on your door before you finish reading this article are very low. If you want to find a girlfriend, you're going to have to do something.

Easier said than done, right? If it were that easy, every guy would have a blonde on his arm and no one would be sitting at home on a Friday night. If you have been chanting "I want to find a girlfriend," you already know that you have to be proactive.

Chances are that you already know what you have to do, too. It isn't a mystery. In order to meet someone - that special someone who might turn out to be "the one" - you are going to have to approach her. Getting the girl usually involves making that first contact. Approaching potential girlfriends successfully is the key to keeping busy on the weekends and adding a romantic dimension to your life.

So, you know you have to take action. You also know that the first action is approaching the women you find interesting. What's the problem?

The problem is that many men find it exceedingly difficult to approach women. They are insecure, unsure of themselves, shy or fear rejection so much that they don't make that essential first move. Even those guys who do have the guts to make an approach often handle the situation so horribly that they are shot down in a heartbeat.

If you want to find a girlfriend, you need to overcome your fears and learn to approach women masterfully.

At least one author, Joseph Matthews, argues that mastering the approach is all about re-learning what makes a man attractive to women and to embody the ideal that will make guys irresistibly attractive while giving them the confidence to approach a woman. He maintains that society's lessons about how to appeal to women hamstring guys and that a different approach is more likely to land the ladies.

Whether you agree with Matthews' assessment, which you can investigate free of charge through a multiple-part "crash course" on "The Art of the Approach," or feel that you just need a little jolt of confidence, it does pay to increase your comfort level and skills with respect to approaching others.

If you can develop a quality approach technique and the confidence necessary to implement it, you won't be muttering "I want to find a girlfriend" again!

Published by Odalis Bitterroot

Odalis Bitterroot considers herself a generalist with many interests. She writes on a variety of subjects.   View profile

  • Shyness, insecurity, inexperience and self-consciousness can make men reluctant to approach women.
  • Even confident men can be "shot down on approach" when they lack quality communication skills.
  • Making contact with women is the essential first step to finding the right person.
The importance of being able to successfully approach the opposite sex is hard to deny. A cottage industry has grown up around the idea of teaching men how to better deal with meeting women.

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    Whey, what's up? my name is ben and im 18 years old. I really am lookin for a girlfriend...i haven't had one in a while, so i need a girl to accept me for who i am and i have touretts so that's why im on here cuz it's hard to find one with this diease. so hit me up on im benblankenship42@yahoo.com

  • allwaysreadytwo@gmail.com 3/21/2010

    Get some therapy. You won't find any women with low self-esteem. It's a turn off. If you can't have confidence in yourself, no woman will have confidence in you either (if they do it's only because their self-esteem is lower than yours). You're young so if you do something about it now then you won't have to waste any more time. Trust me. No woman can help you with this one. You need to pick yourself up by the bootstraps, admit that you need an emotional exercise, and get it worked out so that you can feel the self-worth that you so desperately need.

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    hi my name is dustin if from missouri im 18 yrs old and im looking for a girlfriend so hit me up at ponyboy_mo@yahoo.com

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