Student Versus Teacher

I was recently questioned by a very excellent high school student as to how a student could possibly resolve an issue with a teacher. In her opinion, she believed that not much could be done because her teacher is such a powerful authority in her school. She believed that there was no way to get the teacher to change her thoughts and actions. I explained to her that there are always ways to resolve a conflict if the interested parties are willing to do so. The steps below are dedicated to those students who want to solve issues the best possible way when it comes to solving conflicts with teachers.

Always Be Respectful

No matter what the case may be, always display respect. Approach your teacher in a kind and courteous manner and ask to speak with her or him regarding your issue. Avoid heavy emotions if possible and do not raise your voice. Let them know just how much concern you have about whatever issue you are experiencing. Teachers work extremely hard and are adults. All teachers deserve your utmost respect. Do not seek to "call the teacher out" or make a big scene in front of your classmates. This will not get you very far and could possibly land you in an administrator's office with yet another problem. Respect is paramount (refer to this article regarding respect.) Even if you are not able to resolve your problem initially, the teacher will appreciate and remember your respectful attitude and positive demeanor.

State Issues Clearly

Once you gain the opportunity to speak directly with the teacher, make certain you state your concerns clearly. It might be a good idea to take some notes or write down key points in advance. The main factor is to make sure you plainly communicate all your concerns in such a way that the teacher understands what you have to communicate. Likewise, you should seek to understand the teacher's viewpoint and actions as well. Many times issues can be settled or corrected just by individuals understanding each other a little better. In numerous cases, misunderstandings are the root cause of problems in the first place. Keep in mind that 99% of student issues can and will be resolved just by conversing with your teacher.

Involve Others

When trying to solve your own conflicts or disagreements with teachers, do know and understand that you will not always get your way. There will be instances where just the teacher and you will not reach an agreement. If you reach a point of gridlock, it is time to get others involved. Seek out the advice and support of your parents, a school counselor, or even the assistant principal or principal. Sometimes it simply takes someone else to be involved. Be sure to tell the whole truth and make a strong attempt of at least reaching a compromise. Do not approach others as if you are "telling on the teacher" or trying to get the teacher in trouble. Just state the facts and genuinely ask for help in resolving the issue.

Final Resolutions

If the school administrators are not able to assist you with your problem, you can ultimately turn to the school system superintendent and/or school board. This is rarely the case for most student and teacher conflicts. Nonetheless, there may be some instances where higher level assistance is required once you have exhausted all other avenues. When dealing with the superintendent or school board, make sure you have the support of your parents. You will most likely have to write a letter and could ultimately be requested to speak directly with the superintendent or school board if a major issue is involved.

In closing, realize that people have been experiencing conflicts as long as people have been interacting with one another. Students and teachers are no different. There is nothing wrong with conflict or problems, but it is extremely important to know how to properly solve our conflicts. Utilize the right approaches and you can immediately return to the true focus of school- getting an excellent education.