Survival Tips on Going Alone to a Wedding Party

It doesn't matter the reason why you are forced to go to a wedding alone: either your husband or boyfriend can not accompany you, either you're single or the relationship you have is not enough serious.

There are two important things: the fact that you must go- with or without a partner- and the fact that you should feel as good as possible at the party. Find out how you can make such a moment to become very pleasant for you!

Even if you are a person who enjoys the most to socialize, you may be scared of the social events at which you must go alone. Maybe you just don't like to go unaccompanied to a place where you'll find mostly couples. However, this happened to each of us or will happen one day.

A stunning appearance

Some of the best things you can do to be sure that you'll feel good at the wedding party are the...preparations! In order to get your self confidence back, it's good to go with a day before the party to the cosmetic salon for small retouches: a beautiful tan, the manicure and pedicure. In addition, if you'll be busy doing all these things, you won't have time to think about how will you feel and if there will be present your ex.

Pay attention to the details related to your appearance. I know it sounds superficial, but these elements will make you feel more confident in your own person and will act as auxiliary elements in showing to the others that going alone to a wedding party is not quite a tragedy.

Another element that can help you to have a good mood is to talk with the bride or groom and tell him/ her that you're coming alone; suggest him/ her to help you finding a place near your friends or near people you know. It's recommended to talk with the bride, even if the groom is your brother or friend, because men have the tendency to neglect many of the decisions related to wedding preparations.

The crucial element: your place at the table

One of the things that are good to have in mind is the place where you'll sit at the table. Even if you're the type of person who dances all night long, the people who you sit next to are very important. And, whether we like to admit it or not, the place at the table is given by the social status and by the importance that you have in the life of the new couple.

A good idea is to try at the wedding ceremony to socialize with a group of happy people of your age or to find another woman that is in the same situation as you and to sit next to her.

A friend of mine has had the unpleasant surprise to discover that she was the only single person from the wedding, being forced to share the table with the operator hired to film the wedding and with the photographer.

Whatever you do and whatever are the reasons why you are alone at that wedding, you don't deserve to stay at the same table with teenagers or children or with the photographer. If this happens, try to change your place with someone that sits to another table (or with someone who didn't come or who will come later); if you don't find a way out from this situation, then you have all the excuses in the world to stay exactly as long as you feel good and then to leave -without forgetting to offer your wedding gift, of course.

And, even if it may seem difficult, try not to get nervous! (Neither if 80% of the persons who came at the party will stare at you all night long, asking you why did you came alone, neither if there are only couples or if you don't like the people you're sitting next to!)

Don't believe in myths!

It is said that the weddings are the best opportunity to meet someone. The sad truth is that those who come alone at the wedding party are on the same situation as you: either they have had a relationship with someone that couldn't or didn't want to accompany them, either they are not interested in a relationship; either they are not your type. Still, you could try to dance with those who are alone. The stories that I've heard so far don't include relationships between those who attended a wedding together, but you could be the exception that confirms the rule.

Another false myth is that about catching the bride's bouquet. In the last years, two of my friends "caught the bouquet" (at different weddings, of course) and none of them got married. The best is to perceive everything as a game: of you want, go and try to catch the bouquet, but don't try to make extreme moves on heels just for the sake of this tradition.

Focus only on your good mood!

I'm not saying that you have to behave egocentric if you go alone at a wedding party. Still, you should take care more of your own person when you are alone, because there is no partner next to you. Therefore, dare to dance, to have many pictures and to feel as good as possible!

Sources: www.generationj.com/archive/relationships/alone.html, www.femeia.rp