Talk Dirty to Me - a Beginner's Guide to Talking Naughty in the Bedroom

You know how to talk already. You just might not know how to talk dirty during sex. Talking dirty during sex is a big turn on for a lot of people but many are afraid to try it. They are afraid they'll do it wrong or that their partner will be offended or laugh at them. Like most other things you try in bed, you might want to give your partner a head's up before using vulgar words to spice things up.

To be perfectly honest learning to talk dirty is all going to be trial and error. Everybody's different and the things that drive one person wild might do nothing for another. However, I have some suggestions you can start your homework with.

In my opinion, dirty talk should begin well before sex. Send your lover naughty texts or emails, describing what you'd like to do with him or what you are wearing. Whisper a sweet, naughty something in her ear while you are out shopping. In private conversations, casually express how much you enjoyed making love last night. It's like keeping the lines of sexual communication open in a hot, sexy way. Remember flirting? Talking dirty is just flirting: stage two. Subtle innuendos fit right in. You don't need to start with vulgar words right off; you can begin by just having sexually charged conversations.

Talking dirty is just another form of communication, using slang terminology rather than the technical term for that body part or action. It makes people feel naughty and sexy to talk about their sexual feelings this way.

When you're ready to dive in you may want to start with compliments during sex, go with your feelings and say what turns you on about your partner whether it's a body part or something he or she does. Say what you are enjoying during sex with dirty talk. Be candid and emotional. Another approach is to ask for what you want. Be creative and be genuine. Express your feelings without inhibitions. Talk from your tingling genitals.

You can slowly work your way up to more taboo language and involve role-playing. This is where calling each other raunchy names might come in. A man calling his partner a whore or a dirty little slut during sex is generally playing a role. Sometimes, this can serve as verbal encouragement for her to take on that role in bed. She can play the role of the "dirty little slut" which might make her feel free to just go with her desires and shed any hang-ups she might have. Then she can set aside that role when she's done having her fun.

Don't worry about sounding cheesy. Out of context, pretty much all sex talk sounds cheesy. To increase your sex slang vocabulary you can read erotica (maybe together?) and even consult a slang dictionary.

A few of my favorite resources for sexy, dirty words are these:

http://www.sex-lexis.com/Sex-Dictionary

http://www.mondoerotica.net/sex-porn-thesaurus.html

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