Talking to Your Teenage Son About Sex, for Single Moms

Talking to your teenage son about sex in this day in time can be a challenge. Society demands that sex is something that is very normal and just part of our everyday life. Society seems to make the very act of sex almost like breathing. It just kind of goes along with a daily routine that you share with whomever happens to be your love interest for the day.

This is very true (whether you can see the reality or not) in our teenage sons. What makes this even harder as a single mother is the fact that we have to try to put on that masculine role and talk to him about the good (if any), the bad and the ugly when it comes to sex at his young age.

First lets grasp the reality that now and days many parents do not even care about their children. It may not even be that they don't care. The fact of the matter is that most of the parents aren't conscience about what is going on in their teen son's life, because they are really busy in their own life.

The problem is the fact that most single moms will allow men to come and go in and out of their son's life and when he gets older, he sees that sleeping with several women is ok. He will think that this is ok until someone comes along and shows him that it is not normal, but sex is something sacred.

Life is hard for a single mom. Life is even harder for a single mom who doesn't have the help of her kids' father, both financially and with raising their children. Do you see where this cycle will repeat over and over? Now it is up to you, parents who are reading this article, to take the burden and responsibility off of the teachers, grandparents or whoever else deals with your teenage son on a daily basis and take some responsibility in raising your son to grow up and not do the same mistakes that his father has done. Let's break the cycle and take the time to sit down and talk to our teenage sons about sex, woman and everything that goes with it.

Don't you want your son to grow up and be the best father to your grandchildren? Don't you want him to love his wife like the wonderful husband that you have always dreamed about? Well momma it's up to you to teach him how to do just that. Show him how you have always wanted to be treated, so when he grows up, he will know how to be a good dad and husband.

I have always encouraged talking to children about love at a young age. Parents, don't even think that you need to be secretive when you are showing your spouse affection. Kiss in front of the kids. Hold hands, hug and play around with each other when the kids are watching. This promotes love and love is a good thing.

When you, yourself will show your teenage son love and affection, that will open his mind and heart to emotional things. It's hard on him to not have a loving male role model in his life. Some are fortunate enough to have a good dad who is active in his life. However many divorced families go without their father figure, because he is in jail or elsewhere. That is not an excuse for a single mom. You must talk to your son about sex.

This will be easier if the subject was talked about prior. That is why communication should always be open in the family. Example is: my sons will both tell me when they have a little love interest. They are only 6 and 7. If I go along with them, allow them to talk about these girls and carry on a conversation, by the time they are 15, they will still talk about girls and feel comfortable about it. If not, the topic of sex will never be brought up. However, a teenage boy will talk about sex to somebody. Who would want it to be the town (you-know-what)?

Start out talking about sex in a comfortable environment. It's wise to make sure that there is nothing weighing heavy on his mind. Be sure that his mind is pretty clear and that he feels comfortable. Moms can usually tell when that is.

Don't just come right out and talk about it. Bring something up like, "so who are you taking to prom"? Something to that effect. Even teenager boys are like men. They aren't ones to just open right up to deep emotional things, well most won't. That is why it is so important for a mom to gain that emotional trust in her son when he is younger, so that he will be secure and have that emotional trust in her way before this type of conversation comes up.

Don't beat him over the head with the rules, so-to-speak. Allow him to open up little at a time. Ask him how he feels about his girlfriend. I even talk to my brother like this. It is important to me that the lady in his life is worthy of his kind-heartedness. Sex is easy, so talking to him about love and the things that lead up to sex should be the most important emphasis of the conversation.

Let him know that is important for him to love his body and heart. It is important that the woman in his life should want to marry him and love him. Let him know that it is important to you. Let him know from a woman's perspective how admirable it is to a real woman, that a man would save himself for his wife. Encourage him to love and let him know that it is okay to love without having to have sex.

That is why it is important to love on him and be affectionate even as he is a young child. A lot of times our teenage kids will go looking for the void in drugs, alcohol and even sex. This is the void that is there do to the divorce. You are now to double up on your love and affection, since the other parent isn't an active part of their life.

Tell him that sex is beautiful. It's an art of love that is shared by two souls, making them one. That is why it is so important to save that for the woman that he intends on marrying. Talking to your teenage son about sex should not only be left up to the mother. If you are a dad reading this, it is highly important to talk to him about how to truly love a woman and how important it is to save sex for marriage, even in a world full of fornication.

Sex is normal and pleasurable but only for the right person and at the right time. Do not allow someone else to talk to your son about sex, before you do. Even boys are targeted by child molesters and perverts among woman in society now and days. Don't let her be the one to take his innocence and try to fill that love void in his life, when you, mom, are the one who needs to do that. Start talking to your teenage son about sex, today.