Tall Women: Rude Comments About Being Tall Giving You Stress?
She's a sloucher and hates standing on a bus because her head almost touches the ceiling and makes her feel "insecure." I'm 5-8 and when I ride the light rail to the symphony, wearing 3-inch heels, I'm craning my neck and standing like a soldier in an attempt to touch the ceiling. Camilla says people don't notice her pretty face, but her height catches their eye. But 5-10 is only two inches taller than me, and I am by no means a very tall woman.
Camilla has tried to put on weight to appear less tall, and hates being referred to as lanky. She says that a "slight comment" about her height will ruin her day.
It's okay to want to change a body part.
Again, it's one thing when a woman wishes that something about her body were different. For example, I wish my skin were naturally as dark as it got when I was a child in the sun all day long. But lack of a natural tan does not ruin my day nor cause me anxiety or unhappiness. I wish I were a very tall woman, but I'm certainly not miserable with my current height. I wish my legs didn't grow hair so I'd never have to shave again either. It's okay for a woman to wish things were different about her body.
But poor Camilla sounds like she's suffering to high heaven. I wish I could have just five minutes with this teenager. When a teen girl slogs through every day in a heap of depression and unhappiness over being tall, this clearly indicates that something is lacking in the home.
One need not have a PhD in psychology to figure this out. Either there's something awry in the home structure (lack of praise; lack of dream-building; lack of affection; lack of positive attention, marital instability with the parents), and/or teens like Camilla were never taught to deal with life's little hardballs.
Dumb comments are directed towards women of all sizes, even "normal" sizes.
Whether you are a big and tall woman, short woman, fat woman or look like Pam Anderson, you must learn to go through life fielding dumb comments and stupid questions from people. I've had my share of stupid questions and annoying comments from people; obviously not about my height, but about other things.
A person who's prone to making annoying comments to tall women will make annoying comments to medium women (about other things than height, of course). But if the comments and questions you get are always about being tall, then at least you can prepare for some witty responses.
In my case, dumb questions or comments are usually unpredictable, and I'm often unprepared to deliver a clever response. Like the time I was between weight lifting sets at the gym, seated on a bench, and looking at the calluses on my palms (I never wear weight lifting gloves). A frumpy looking, middle-aged man who was walking by commented, "Looking at your calluses, huh." He kept on walking as I looked up, seeing only his back as he continued walking. I didn't know what to say.
Many would argue I shouldn't say anything; just ignore the dope. But let's admit it; it feels so good to deliver a witty response to a stupid or rude comment! This man wasn't complimenting me, however. But when a tall woman gets a comment about her height, it's a compliment 99 percent of the time. Tall teens do get ridiculed and called names like Green Giant, but tall women get nice compliments.
Many just don't perceive them that way. Tall women must convince themselves that the following comments are meant to be complimentary:
"Gee, you're tall."
"Wow, you're so tall!"
"Geez, I thought I was tall!"
"How tall are you?"
"You're as tall as my boyfriend."
"How tall are your parents?"
"Were you always the tallest in your class?"
If being tall is such a terrible thing, why is height prized in the modeling industry? And if you think your face isn't pretty enough to be a model, then take a good look at runway and print magazine models; half of them are dogs, but their height and confident attitude get them the high paying jobs.
Published by Jillita Horton
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12 Comments
Post a Commenti am 5 foot '6 inches. i am turning 14 next month. if i go into a grocery store like foodlion ,many people ask me about where items are. which is dumb because people who work there have a dresscode. if i go into somewhere in the mall like hollister ,people ask how much things are,when im just a shopper myself. when i go to my mom's friends house first thing out their mouth they say "wow.she's tall. but very pretty.how old is she?" i say 13. and nobody believes me. many say 16,17,or 18. its very insulting! but in some cases ,if your tall ,your height can be an advantage. haha.
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To Chris Cehlarik, I'm 5'5, just under 190 lbs, strong, thick and fit. Tall women will never understand the ridicule and ill-treatment a short guy faces in this world. Society doesn't treat short people with the same respect as tall people. Women refusing to accept you as a man while treating you disrespectfully isn't something any guy should have to endure but I have. I've learned to accept my height with age, but I can see that lots of you taller ladies have a hard time accepting yours.
To Akshaya, taller women with broad shoulders are just as beautiful and feminine as the smaller ladies. You need to embrace your size and understand that there's men who do appreciate you. Do your best to ignore everything society tells you that is wrong about taller women dating shorter men. Too many of you swear by these unrealistic expectations that quality men must be at least six feet or more. Quality guys come in all sizes.
I'm six feet tall and am built like a linebacker. Model? Ha. Shorter women have no idea what it is like to be treated like a man. I hate every day that I suffer in this huge, ridiculous excuse for a body- and I'm 31! Be happy you aren't a freak.
I am a 18 year and i am always asked about my age i am 5'11 and i dont really care i dress as i please the onlt thing i'm a little worried about is prom, if i should wear a really long dress and wear flats or jus go in them? i am usually taller than most of the boys that i talk to since you can hardly find taller dudes my friends usually get jealous and say i should be a model its a passion but not a lifelong career.
Not true at all sister, you just need to get out there and find the right guy. I am 6 feet tall and my husband is 5'8. I am large too, not fat, just large. Broad shoulders and back and very long legs. My husband loves it and tells me so all the time. We have been together for about 15 years and at first it took a little getting used to but after all this time we don't even notice it anymore. I don't wear high heels but they aren't really comfortable anyway. Keep looking and you will find the guy who is confident enough in himself to look up to you.
I'm19 years old, slim, six feet tall, and absolutely gorgeous.I know exactly how this teen feels...but on the other hand, I also recieve comments about how beautiful I am and that I should be a model. I guess it just depends on the person. Be confident and proud of your height. Even though being tall is a gift, it is often a target for rude comments because deep down inside, those people delivering these comments aren't content with themselves and they wish they were taller. It's as simple as that.
Akshaya, you're only one inch taller than me. There is NO way I can ever feel huge around men, let alone women. If I'm a lot bigger than a woman, then she's going to be pretty small. I see women taller than you who look like they can be broken in half. I think the problem is more with your body build, not with your height. Stop sulking and start empowering yourself by working out. Become strong and energetic, faster and healthier. No guy wants to be around a girl who hates herself.