Teaching One Kid at a Time

Dennis Dale
You can't teach a classroom. I've found over the years that whether you like it or even recognize it, you teach each child individually, they respond individually, and some days this is a joy.

On other days, it can break your heart.

As I sat down with a child I'll call Christian, I was struck by how on this day, he looked well groomed and energetic. This is not always the case. Often the boy has come to school looking disheveled, his clothing ragged, his hair uncombed. He sometimes appears to have gone far too long without proper food, and I've noticed his energy level and concentration has shot up when I've provided snacks and fruit juice. He seems happiest at school, which appears to be refuge for him from a difficult home life. I know his parents are both struggling to overcome drug addiction, some days more successfully than others.

This is one of the more successful days, and the boy seems happy to be of help in my preparing this paper. He is always happy to find an adult he can please, and he enjoys being the focus of positive attention. He has no idea that he's being evaluated with an eye towards removing him from the private school he presently attends and at which I teach. We share a snack and he answers my questions with earnestness and a surprising amount of reflection.

As we read aloud, I notice Christian reads one word at a time, and often he substitutes one word for another, such as "they" for "there" or "his" for "it." Clearly he has not learned to sound out words. He has trouble associating individual letters with the sounds they represent. He hesitates at longer words and his comprehension when he reads is poor.
Conversely, his comprehension is excellent when he listens to me read.

It is clear to me that among the reasons he is experiencing these difficulties is that he has never fully connected sounds to the symbols for them which we call letters. The letter "C" presents him with particular troubles, being used to represent two distinctive sounds in various words. It confuses and frustrates him. Nor does he understand letter combinations, such as "th" and the silence of "gh" in the word "right" for instance, further frustrates him.

His troubles also clearly stem from a lack of support at home. His parents have trouble caring for him in general, and aiding and augmenting his education is simply beyond their current abilities. Sporadic nourishment and nurturing have taken and continue to take their toll on the boy, physically, mentally and emotionally. His test scores and social interaction indicate that he is of average intelligence - indeed a bit on the higher end of average. In fact, he's an engaging child, even charming. But he is learning that his parents place little value on his learning, and as they think it unimportant, he is conflicted when he realizes that the other adults he wishes to please - his teachers - see it as very important.

Our principal sees it as important. As we're undergoing an accreditation review, he's decided we can do without students who are pulling down our test scores. Several are being evaluated for the purpose of finding them academically unprepared to continue as our students.

Oddly, when the school year began they were academically prepared.

Except Christian.

To be honest, when I initially evaluated this child, I recommended against accepting him as a student. I felt he was too far behind, and he'd be better served with some remedial instruction from somewhere else. Anywhere else. Just don't saddle me with this kid, I thought. He'll take up too much of my time.

But now, there's no way I'm letting this kid fail.

There are things that I can do for him. I can teach him what sound each letter represents. I can teach him about letter combinations and what sounds they represent. I can show him how to read more fluidly, how to sound out words, how to use a dictionary and how to gain some confidence. I believe I can teach him how very important reading is, and will be, in his future. I may even be able to show him what a joy reading can be, what worlds it can open to him and what wonderful places to which it can transport him within his mind - and perhaps someday in the real world.

There are things he's going to have to learn on his own, however, and they are difficult things. Learning to cope with the myriad problems drug addicted parents pose is going to be a lifelong struggle.

I only hope that I can teach him that regardless of the problems he faces, he is valued, he is loved and he is capable of things he has yet to imagine.

Published by Dennis Dale

I've sold a feature film script, a few television pilots, and a TV movie. I'm a produced playwright, an ex-cop, and a recovering stand up comedian. I've toured two continents as an actor and just completed...  View profile

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  • Callthe18/19/2009

    Ha, ha, Nelva doesn't even know how to spell excellent. Another one of our
    ignorant uneducated teachers. Den makes her look really dumb as he's too smart for her.

  • Pflyer6/30/2009

    writing. I wish you all the luck in the world. Don't get to age 90 to realize how young you still are now.

  • Pflyer6/30/2009

    satisfying things, but they won't come to you parked in an easy chair. Someone has made you feel like giving up and not living life anymore. Unless people make you feel good all the time, support you and keep you interested, they have no place in your life, personally, professionally or otherwise. You don't need a crutch, you need an invigorating life where you are always able to dispense what you have to give, and in your case that's a lot. People will keep you down when given the chance, go for those that bring you up and see your true value every day. Think positive, an old statement, but true. Get rid of anyone in your life who is not in the same place of moving forward. Misery loves company. I hate to see you depressed, and I am sure being male you will feel defensive about this, please don't. From one guy to another, I know where you're coming from. Put the defensiveness aside, it's your life and making the most of it is more important than taking the time to feel put out by this

  • Pflyer6/30/2009

    o.k., so you are aware of what drug addiction can do and how hard it is to overcome as per your article here. With that said, a person who has to drink a beer a day or even just a beer very often is an alcoholic. I am referring to you Dennis. You are intelligent, talented, unique, a great writer, good listener and many other good things. You are also a great teacher whether you are still doing that or not. You have a great gift to give people and so maybe it's not in Hollywood, so what? Perhaps you have a higher calling. I can tell you that you have more to offer than to stay home, worry about your age ( your young ),feel confined, grieve over former losses, get stuck to a make believe world of TV and wash your misery down with alcohol. It's a go nowhere plan, and you have always been so smart and determined, which is what people like about you. If you are unhappy with your life, career, hobbies , relationship, whatever, change it or move on. You are not beyond living and doing satisf

  • Phil Ward3/15/2006

    Dennis Dale does two things with this fine article: reinforces Garrison Keillor's observation "Nothing you do for a child is ever wasted," and makes us want to know more about Christian. Well done.

  • Nelva3/14/2006

    Excelent, just excellent. One caring teacher can do wonders.

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