Teen Dating- What If Your Child is Dating an Older Man?
The truth is that a lot of teenage girls are doing this. Sometimes the parents know and just don't care or the men lie to them about their age. In any case I think that parents should be more cautious about what their children are doing and who they are doing it with. Older men are more experienced and it is doubtful that they'll just settle for a goodnight kiss. They have already been through the teenage years and probably know how to manipulate to get what they want. Which includes unwanted sex or sex without protection. Anyhow, it seems to me that a guy that would date someone that young has issues. Either they are immature, are insecure, or want someone they can easily control. Chances are if control is an issue it will lead to domestic abuse.
When it comes to teens dating I think that parents should lay down the rules before they are allowed to do so. They should have a curfew and an age limit on the boys they are allowed to date. In my opinion the boys should not be more than 3 to 4 years older. I do think that also when a teen is allowed to date there should be a chaperon present to cut out all of the touchy feely stuff that will lead to other things later on. I know it may seem like you are being a bad guy in the situation but its the only way to know if their really safe. A lot of teens act out at their parents rules but its important to not give in. Your child has to know that until they are of 18 years of age they are under your consent. That means your rules. They should know that if they break the rules there will be consequences. It's up to us to keep them out of harms way. If you have problems with your teenager I'd suggest seeing a counselor.
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Post a Comment16yo is the legal age of consent in australia
What a load of crap! Stop trying to create a taboo out of something that isn’t new, but instinctual. Stop acting like little girls need to be protected of their own desires and that the men who like much younger girls are somehow sick. Jealousy spawns rhetoric amongst the grown women of society as they forget who they admired and masturbated to profusely when they were young.
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she is 14 he is 18. He is a recovering meth-addict, been to juvy for b&e, we want to just point them in the right direction. Support his recovery, enforce to her that school is paramount. we can't help their feelings, but i do agree that a man of 18 should know better. We did also touch on the law aspect to this situation.
As much as i agree with your views, and your solution is a solid one. It is not that easy to deal with a daughter who thinks that this man is everything she has dreamed of. We had that talk about how uncomfortable we are with the situation and believe me i wanted nothing more than to bash this guy in. However the resistance met was pure defiance...She was going to see him no matter what! So we arrive at a solution pretty much described in your article. She was pleased with the idea and we must admit we were relived. However after the display of defiance we are having huge issues trusting her now. We are going to see a councillor to help us. A bonus to this was it was thrust upon us days before xmas and we found out about the guy after his aunt phoned us about it.
Worst holiday season ever.
wow, what a party pooper. i bet your kids love you.
they can't help who they like!! i like guys who are 4-5 years older than me, and i can't help it.
I am 17 right now, met this guy when I was 16 at our job. He did NOT begin to flirt with me. I was no able to drive home at the time, and I usually got a friend to drive me home since I worked at a large job with a lot of people. Well I asked him since he rented an apartment in the town I live in (where the job is too) with some friends and they all work there. He just drove me home, wasn't awkward since we have worked with each other! Everyone at my job had a facebook and friends with each other, and we would talk online. He opened up to me, he has had a rough life, adopted, his dad has cancer and in a wheelchair and his adopted mom divorced his dad and moved and married another man. He told me he spent a lot of time taking care of him so he has lived at home a lot also. He has gone to college and had serious relationships before, but no children and never married. He drove me home again the next night, instead we went to walmart before and browsed, and brought me home. It progressed
Wow judgemental much? When I was 16-17 I met a guy who was 33 and we both attended the same university. He was doing a Phd and I was just an arts undergraduate. To cut a long story short we became great friends but when we went further, my parents found out about him and made my life hell. We tried enduring the harsh criticism for 2yrs but it took its toll on us and we parted ways. I since dated boys my age for many yrs who used me and were rubbish compared to my true love. I was naive and young boys took advantage of that. My true guy never pressured me. 10yrs later we met by chance overseas of all places, and and now still with him, he is almost mid 40s. He is still the best guy I ever met, can you imagine how much happier I would of been if I stuck with him than listened to "society"?! and lost so many yrs instead.
Ilivethatsamestorysome10yearsago,Mygfwas16yearsyoungerthanme,Igotthepermissionfromhermotherandwelivelyahappyrelationshipuntilshewwas20.Now,Iam42andcertainlymissallthosemomentsIlivedwithher,andIamsureshemissesmeaswell.Gostraightaheadwithyourlivesanlettheotherstoenjoytheirtraumasofohsoperfectmentality.
I also agree with with Missy and Anna age is really just a number if he treats you great he's ok :) gosh stop judging ppl im sure all of you that oppose of this have darker skeletons in your closets and that older person that the person or people that they are dating might be the best thing that has happened in their lives. Why so quick to judge? Don't think just because that person has an older age that he/she is bad get to know them more. Remember when you point at someone judging them four fingers are pointing straight back at you. Never be so quick to judge.