Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence is on the rise and it is important to know how to keep your teenager safe. Most victims of teen dating violence are girls, but boys are also victims of dating abuse. In many cases, teens are abused for several months or longer before they report the abuse. Sometimes teenagers fail to acknowledge the violence in their relationships until the abuse becomes obvious due to serious injury.

Your daughter or son could be at risk for teen dating violence. Do not assume that your children will tell you if their relationships become violent. Teen girls are likely to blame themselves when they experience dating violence. They may be ashamed and lack the courage to tell. They could also be afraid of not being believed if they report the violence, especially if their abuser has a good reputation or comes from an upper class family. Boys who experience dating violence are even more likely to keep quiet, especially if they are in homosexual relationships.

As a parent, it is important to pay close attention to your teen's behavior, attitude, and appearance so that you will notice unusual changes which could indicate problems. You should also be aware of specific traits that increase your teen's risk of experiencing dating violence.

Low self-esteem. Teens who do not feel good about themselves have a greater risk of experiencing teen dating violence. Their low self-esteem interferes with their ability to stand up for themselves. Thus, other teens often abuse and take advantage of them. If your son or daughter appear to have low self-esteem take steps to help increase their levels of self-esteem. Activities such as karate are effective at boosting confidence.

Insecure About Appearance. Physical appearance is extremely important to teenagers, especially girls. If your daughter is unhappy with her appearance, help enhance her natural beauty. Maybe changing her hairstyle or trying some new makeup will give her a little confidence. If your daughter is overweight, help her select clothing that compliments her body. Likewise, help your son find a style that highlights his best qualities. Perhaps he needs a new haircut, or an updated pair of glasses. Teens who feel more secure within themselves are less likely to become involved in dating violence.

Lack of Friends. Do not try to be your teen's best friend. You are the parent, not a peer. Teens need friends their own age who share their interests. Girls who lack friends are more likely to make inappropriate dating choices and become victims of teen dating violence. They want a social life and are usually willing to settle for an abusive boyfriend rather than no boyfriend at all. Encourage your daughter to participate in activities that will allow her to make female friends. By the same token, help your son develop positive friendships with other boys, and make sure he has a strong male role model. Boys who are loners, or lack male role models are more likely to become perpetrators of teen dating violence.

The teen years are difficult for most young people. As a parent, it is essential to maintain close relationships with your teens. Show an interest in their lives and offer unconditional support. Do whatever it takes to keep your teens from experiencing teen dating violence.
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