Teen Depression: How to Forgive Your Parents

When you are a child your parents are your idols, but when you become a teen you start noticing their mistakes and entering into conflict with them, because you have your own opinion about everything and you simply cannot agree with their conclusions.

For them it would be wonderful if they could control you completely, as they used to do when you were a child. For you it would be wonderful if you were free and you didn't have to bear their restrictions...

The conflict between generations is an old problem, still unsolved in our time. On the contrary, it has become worse.

However, the worst is your parents' indifference to your existence.

If they only care about their work, their social obligations and other things, instead of giving you their attention, you feel isolated.

Unfortunately, your parents are very important for you. They are as important for you today as they were when you were only a baby, and this is why you feel so depressed when they are distant and indifferent.

You may have to bear very serious mistakes... Some parents are really terrible. They shouldn't ever have had children in their lives...

You have to bear their sad character and their mistakes, besides depending on them and following them in an inferior position, since they are the leaders.

This is really revolting...

But things won't be this way forever. Some day you'll be totally independent.

Now, how can you simply forgive them and stop caring about their opinion?

How can you accept their existence full of mistakes and stop feeling depressed because they are your parents?

And how can you forgive their total indifference to you, their own child, the child that they should love and treat like a treasure?

Dear friend, be realistic. Your parents are human beings, exactly like you. They simply have a few more years on their back, but they are basically like you: they have many fears, they don't know many things, they are lazy...

As a matter of fact, you have to understand that they didn't want to be your parents. You somehow appeared in their lives, even if they deliberately decided to have a child, because they are inconsequential: you are simply one of their mistakes.

They were not prepared to bear so much responsibility, they are not as balanced and strong as they should be in order to give you the support you need, and they are tired with all the obligations they have acquired in their lives.

Don't expect too much from them.

Learn how to translate your dreams and you'll discover a doctor and teacher that sends you precious messages, which work like psychotherapy.

Learn how to develop your personality and become a balanced adult that will improve our world.

Think about your own life and the family you'll have in the future, when you'll be independent and live far from your parents.

Avoid imitating their behavior with your own kids, or think carefully before deciding to become a parent yourself.

Show understanding.

In a while you'll have your own life, and your parents' existence will be only a shadow.