Teen-agers and Sex

I am a virgin at 22. Isn't it pathetic? I don't think any of my friends are or there may be some. They don't criticize me for being so and I don't criticize them either. I definitely don't think that it's a barrier between them and me. But for now, let me tease any of you about this troubling truth about teen-agers and sex.

My parents were brought up more family oriented reason why I settled for this awkward life as you may describe it. I may appear out of your depth, tongue-tied or ill at ease, whatever you'd like to call me. The picture I'd like to slap on your face is change - change in teenagers' sexual attitudes, beliefs and behavior. Increasingly, kids are making love before they know the meaning of love. What do they know after all? Think of how it is like today to negotiate the difficult years between puberty and sweet 16. Do they know about idealism, or they'd boast curiosity as an excuse before they even suppose the so called "by accident" devastating results.

Teenagers today face a kind of "reverse peer pressure"- to lose, rather than keep, one's virginity. Its pleasure I'd like to agree, and curiosity exists. And curiosity comes in two, being curious with the necessary and curious with the unnecessary things. Just like with a kid when he's in the state of philosophizing, questioning things, asking whys for he wants answers. Do kids at six ask about sex? Well, that could be answered by the changing role of parents in their kid's life. And if you are more than ten, would you care to ask? I know you don't like to admit. Given that curiosity is a step to knowledge, why not question things this way. What's growing up anyway? What does being ready for sex mean? Or why shouldn't kids have sex at eight if they want to? What's your worth in the world if you skip this necessary inquisitiveness? Fine, you move on, get a new life to start learning all over again. Gee, the end is near and your time is limited, leave a piece of idealism to be emulated by your kids. Don't they matter to you?

As do most of us know that one's first experience with intercourse is usually disappointing. But when it happens to a young vulnerable teen-ager whose sense of self-identity is undeveloped, he or she may get turned off to the whole idea of sex and relationships in general. Or such teen-agers may embark on a series of new sexual relationships in the hope of repairing the wounds to self-esteem and burn out while still young, feeling they have too little to look forward to about their future and too much to regret when they're older. Sex is supposed to be a holy act for life's sake. Discover the point ladies and gentlemen or settle to be called victims of the sexual revolution. Please be responsible of yourselves. Don't blame the mistake to your parents anymore. Don't even blame it to the explosion of communications technology for it's consistent to adding up intensity to a teen-ager's culture inundated with sexual innuendo and fantasy. You're blessed with knowledge, power to understand and of course freedom for yourself.

I don't wish to make this article long but rather try to finish it sensible for reading. Here are special problems awaits young teen-agers who have intercourse.

-A baby born to a teenage mother is at higher risk than a baby born to an older mother for premature birth, low birth weight, other serious health problems and death.

-Life may be difficult for a teenage mother and her child.

-Some teens may need to change their lifestyle to improve their chances of having a healthy baby. Eating unhealthy foods, smoking, drinking alcohol and taking drugs can increase the risk that a baby will be born with health problems.

-Epidemic levels of pregnancy

-Expectation of Venereal diseases, consider yourself a carrier

-An increase risk among females of developing cancer

-Lastly, it downs your worth as a woman.

Where's the presence of your man here? They're wanderers!

Please save your seeds...

-dp