Telling Your Family You Have Breast Cancer

Finding out you have breast cancer might be one of the most earth-shattering moments in your life. You'll go through many emotions, not the least of which will be fear and trepidation over how to break this news to your family. First, give yourself a little time to process the information, but don't try to face this alone. Your family is there for you; they will want to help you, and they will be one of your best sources of support as you go through this ordeal. Here are some ideas on how to tell them about what's going on, and how to keep coping with the situation as you go through treatment.

Tell them you have breast cancer in person. Don't just call. It might be hard to say, and you might all end up in tears, but it will be better for you to let them know face-to-face, and then explain the steps that you'll be taking next, and letting them know what your doctor is saying. It's okay if everyone turns into an emotional mess. You're all there to help each other, and to support each other.

Give them information. Many doctor's offices have pamphlets on breast cancer and chemotherapy that you can give to them. I know that when my grandmother was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was afraid, and I researched things online to try to understand what she would be going through. Even if the knowledge is bleak, knowing is better than wondering. Don't lie, don't gloss over anything. Let them know when your treatments are, and when would be a good time for them to visit, since you may not feel well on days you have treatments. Your doctor will probably be able to give you printouts of what's going on too.

Let them help. Don't try to put up a tough front and go it alone; again, this is what family's for. Letting them help you while you go through your cancer treatments will not only help you, but it will help them with the feelings of helplessness they're probably feeling.

Keep them updated. As you get test results and news from your doctor, let them know. Even if it's just e-mail, the updates will be appreciated. This is a continuation of the second step above. A website, online journal, or maybe a family phone tree, anything to let your family know what's happening with you. When my grandmother was sick, my dad used to call and give me updates, and I used to stop in and visit whenever I could.

Let your family be there for you, it will help.