Ten Commandments for Husbands

Men, do you wish there was more peace and passion in your relationship with your wife? Do you long to feel closer and more connected to your spouse? Just follow these easy Ten Commandments for Husbands to reignite and maintain the spark in your relationship. Remember, when it comes to women, a little attention from you goes a long, long way. Women are givers by nature and you will get what you give.

Commandment One: Donate Your Time.

You can really make your wife feel special if you donate your time to her. Offer to watch the kids on a Saturday afternoon so she can go out with her girlfriends. Or offer to drive her and her girls around on Girls Night Out. By giving your time, you are showing her that you care about her needs and you respect all the time she gives to others. Nothing makes a woman more proud than being able to brag to her girlfriends about all the wonderful things you do for her.

Commandment Two: Listen to Her.

Most men are fixers. They hear a problem, they want to fix it. But perhaps you have tried that so often and she has dismissed your solutions so many times that you just kind of tune her out when she vents. The problem is, she knows that you've tuned her out. So start listening again. Acknowledge what she's said by making comments as she talks. Simple things such as, "Wow, your co-worker sounds really difficult to work with," go a long way in making her feel like you've heard what she's saying. She will feel like you care about what's going on in her life, and she'll feel more connected to you.

Commandment Three: Encourage Her.

When your wife decides to go on a diet or start exercising, encourage her efforts to change. You can even show your encouragement by going along with her, eating the same diet foods as she, and offering to work out with her. Tell her how proud you are of her efforts in whatever she decides to do. It will make her feel like you've got her back and she will feel special to have you.

Commandment Four: Cuddle with her.

Every now and then, hug or kiss your wife for no reason. Just come up behind her while she's cooking and nuzzle up to her. Or hold her close while watching television. In case you are not in the habit of cuddling without it leading to sex, tell her that you just want to be close to her and you do not expect it to end with aerobics in the bedroom. This will ease her fears that you are just doing it to get something later. Women love to feel close and cuddly without a sense of obligation attached to it. She will show her appreciation for it in many different ways.

Commandment Five: Thank her.

Your wife works hard to keep the household running smoothly. Take a minute or two to thank her for all she does. Thank her for keeping the kids bathed and clothed. Thank her for making dinner and doing the laundry. Thank her for all the mundane things she does to keep up with the daily grind. She will be thrilled that you noticed all that she does and it will cheer her mood when life gets her down.

Commandment Six: Share Your Emotions.

Contrary to what other men tell you, women are attracted to men who share their feelings. They think it's sexy. Don't hesitate to tell her about a frustrating incident that happened to you at work, or how your boss belittled you. She likes to know that you share the same feelings that she feels from time to time. It makes her feel like she is not alone, and she will be more likely to sympathize with you and offer her support when you need it.

Commandment Seven: Do Something She Likes.

Make an effort to do something your wife likes to do. Maybe she likes to go shoe shopping. Offer to go with her. Maybe she likes to watch chick flicks. Watch one with her. Do it even if it bores you to tears. It doesn't take much time and effort to do something she likes but she will remember the effort you made for a lot longer.

Commandment Eight: Do Not Do Things She Dislikes.

This one sounds like a no-brainer, but many men purposefully go out of their way to do things their wives dislike as a means of pushing her buttons. Do not do that. Such behavior is childish and hurtful and does nothing but harm your relationship with the one you are supposed to love the most.

Commandment Nine: Protect Her.

Think about James Bond for a minute. Women fall head over heels for men who go out of their way to protect them. Even though you aren't James Bond, you can still do things that have the same affect on your wife. Hold her hand while you two are walking down the street. Open the car door for her and make sure she's safely in before closing it. Tell her you'd take a bullet for her. Sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door so if an intruder comes in, they'll see you first. All these things make a woman feel safe and secure w hen she's with you, and she's apt to be more open with you.

Commandment Ten: Give Her Gifts.

Gifts don't need to be lavish displays of affection. They can be simple things such as a single rose or a bottle of her favorite bubble bath that tell her you were thinking of her as you went about your day. She will feel loved and cherished and will reciprocate accordingly.