Ten Commandments for Wives

These Ten Commandments for wives are meant to restore and maintain a healthy relationship with your husband. The purpose of these Ten Commandments is to bring out the best traits in your man more often. Remember, you get what you give. If you are looking to bring the sexy back into your relationship, and develop an even closer bond with your husband, try these very simple tips.

Commandment One: Thank him.

The first commandment is to thank your husband for all the work he does to keep the household running smoothly. Thank him for the little things, such as unloading the dish washer or checking into that funny noise the car is making. If he knows that all these little things do not go unnoticed by you, he is apt to do them more often. Even if he does them everyday, thank him for his persistence.

Commandment Two: Ask for help.

Contrary to popular belief, husbands are not mind readers and women do not come with manuals. Nor do most men know what goes into keeping a house clean. If you wish him to help you with chores around the house, ask him. Be specific. Ask him to do a specific chore and tell him if he helps you, then you will be able to spend more time with him, which is what you really want to do. Then, once he has completed the chore, follow Commandment One and thank him for helping you.

Commandment Three: Encourage him.

When your husband embarks on a new endeavor such as learning to balance the checkbook or starting a workout regimen, verbally encourage him. Tell him what a good job he is doing, even if at first he makes some mistakes or stumbles along the way. He is making an effort to better himself, and any encouragement you give him will come back to you. He will feel even more like he can tackle larger and more complicated projects.

Commandment Four: Praise him.

Praise your husband for trying new things. Tell him how proud you are that he is doing xyz, even if he fails at it. The more you praise him, the better the odds that he will succeed at whatever he chooses to accomplish. He will feel like you have his best interests at heart.

Commandment Five: Do things he likes.

Try doing something that your husband enjoys doing. If he likes to tinker with old cars, don on some grubby clothes and join him in the garage. If he loves to watch football, join him on the couch with his team colors and a beer. Ask questions about what he is doing and what he likes about it. If you express interest in his choice activities, he will feel loved by you, and in turn, will reciprocate the love.

Commandment Six: Do not do things he dislikes.

This one sounds like a no-brainer, but many women purposefully go out of their way to do things their husband dislikes as a means of pushing his buttons. Do not do that. Such behavior is childish and hurtful and does nothing but harm your relationship with the one you are supposed to love the most.

Commandment Seven: Tell him how sexy he is.

Men love sexy women. But what they love more is to know that women find them sexy, too. Nothing will bring out the man in your man like telling him what you find sexy and attractive about him. Tell him what attracted you to him in the first place. Was it his eyes? His dimples when he smiles? Some other body part? Say it with pride and enjoy the rewards.

Commandment Eight: Be pretty for him.

It's the weekend, which means running errands and housework. But instead of throwing on your favorite pair of sweatpants and a headband, gussy yourself up instead. Take a shower, do your hair and make-up, brush your teeth and dab on some perfume. Do everything you'd do if you were going to work. If you do this for everyone else five days of the week, doesn't your husband deserve one day where he can admire how beautiful you are, too? You may find he's suddenly more helpful around the house and doesn't mind to go out shopping with you! Every man loves to feel proud of their beautiful wife, so give him something worth looking at.

Commandment Nine: Cater to him.

You can do small things to cater to your man that show him you love him and are thinking of him. For example, if you know an important football game is coming up, pick up some hot dogs, hamburgers and his favorite beer and make him a meal while he is watching the game. Take a day to wear his favorite outfit that you own, and let him know you're wearing it because you know he likes it so much. Small caterings such as these go a long way in letting him know that you listen to him and care about what he likes.

Commandment Ten: Adore him.

Every man has things that he does that make us glad we picked them. Take a minute out of your day to tell him what you like about him. Maybe it's his sense of humor or the way he baby-talks to the dog when he thinks nobody is watching. Whatever it is, let him know it's one of the many reasons why you love him and picked him to be your husband.