Ten Ways to Get Over a Failed Relationship and on to the Next One

Clean that ex right out of your house. Remove all photos of her or him. Remove any and all gifts you ever received from them. Especially remove all photos of your ex and you together. Clean your house. Vacuum, dust, sweep, mop, wash your windows. It will feel good to make a fresh start with a fresh and clean house.

Reconnect With Old Friends

Remember all those friends that you started seeing less of when you got serious with your ex? Reconnect with them. Look up some old friends that you used to work with. Look up some old college and high school friends. Even if it's just on facebook, reconnecting with old friends is good for your soul.

Work On Your Body

Now I don't mean to work out to make your ex sorry it ended. Work out for YOU. Join a gym, start jogging. Working out gets your endorphins going and that makes you feel good. Working out is good for your body and state of mind. Working out will boost your self confidence as well and we all need that at times like this. If you do something like aerobics or dance class, your mind will be so busy learning all the routines and dances, you won't even think about your ex.

Have Some Nights Out With Friends

I remember when I was home alone one night after a breakup. I had nothing planned. I was a bit down but not really depressed. I had a knock on the door. It was my friend Sand telling me to get changed and that we were going to the club. She wouldn't take no for an answer. So here I went off to the club with Sand and about four or five of her female friends. Nothing intimate went on, no sparks were flying but it felt good in that club dancing, drinking and hanging out with five lovely ladies.

Have a night out with the girls or with the boys. Do all the girl things or men things that you didn't normally do when you were with your ex. This is a good and fun way to get your mind off your ex.

Have A Good Dinner Of Your Choice

I wouldn't recommend slamming down a super sized value meal from a fast food place but eat. Eat whatever you want. Cook at home or go out. The choice is yours. Have a nice marinated porterhouse steak with all the fixings. Get some Chinese takeout or order a pizza. Don't over do it or do it on a regular basis. You don't want to gain too much weight.

Don't Think Of The Good Times

I'm sure you and your ex had some good times but if you sit and dwell on them, it's just going to make you miss your ex more. Think about the stuff you didn't like about your ex. Did your ex chew with their mouth open and smack their lips? Did your ex insist on cranking up Savage Garden when you had sex? These are just little things but it's OK. Just think of all the things your ex did that irked you instead of the good times. This will make you appreciate the absence of their presence in your life.

Rent A Movie

For a woman... Go out and rent "Bridget Jones". It's good viewing.

For a man....Go out and rent "The Big Lebowski". You'll be glad you did. "The Dude abides".

Go ahead and concentrate on the movie. Watch it twice if you have to. Too much zoning out isn't good after a breakup. Watching a movie is a good way to get your mind away from the ex.

Get Angry

I'm serious. Getting angry feels way better than crying. Anger is a normal human emotion. Just don't get arrested.

Consider A Big Change

Go ahead and search for a new apartment. Move across town or even out of the state. Sometimes, it does us some good to make a fresh start. It will keep you from running into your ex or your ex's friends and such. Not to metion not having to go into that spare room where you and your ex used to have sex on that table.

Don't Hold Out

You want to keep yourself open to new experiences in love and life. Hold out in the hopes that you and your ex get back together with you is a waiste of mental engergy. It stops you from moving forward. I'm not sure HOW it stops you but it does.

There you have it. If anything good came out of the breakup, you're a bit wiser. Now go to youtube, look up, "Kim Richey - I'm Allright" and listen to the words. You'll make it. Good luck.