Texting Etiquette for First Dates and New Relationships

Texting etiquette can keep you from getting off to a bad start with first dates and new relationships. Until you get to know each other better, type with caution to avoid 7 common pitfalls of dating and texting.

Don't text to ask someone out the first time: For first dates, you have to ask someone out face to face or at least pick up the phone. Otherwise, it raises serious doubts that you're willing to invest any time and effort in having a relationship. Alternatively, it may give the impression that you're too insecure for more personal communication.

Don't text during your first date: Except for urgent communications, it's always courteous to focus on the people you're with rather than your BlackBerry. It's even more important during your first encounter, when you should be trying to get to know each other.

Don't overdo the mass texts: Messages to multiple people are sometimes appropriate if it's just information or a funny quote that needs no personalization. This method can be more offensive if it looks like you're trying to juggle too many potential romances at once. No one likes to feel that they're just a back-up option in case nothing you prefer to do comes along.

Don't type over the text limit: If you're getting into a new relationship, find out if the person has an unlimited texting plan. You don't want to run up their bills or put them on the spot with having to tell you to cut back.

Don't use text for emotional messages: Starting out in a new relationship, you should try to be in the same room when you share your special first-time moments. Later on, text may be a quick and fun way to express your feelings sometimes. Plus, in case you don't feel the same way, it's easier to gloss things over in person rather than committing them to writing.

Don't rely on text alone: Text is a supplement to more personal communications and not a substitute. Use it for short and factual communications like letting your date know if you're caught in traffic.

Don't be a bore: Some people want to share every detail of their day. Others will want to scream if you start giving them a moment by moment rundown.

Texting etiquette can keep your first dates and new relationships running smoothly. Dating and texting can be a winning combination when used wisely.