The 8 Most Important Interests of Women

Wouldn't it be great to know what women want? Well, now you can. In fact, women, like men, are evolutionarily engineered to be attracted to certain characteristics of the opposite sex. Back when we were still cavemen, women needed a strong man who could defend her and feed the family. Although women of the Stone Age don't have the quite the same needs as the women of today, they're still looking for qualities of a strong man. Now, however, being a strong man doesn't mean being a muscular guy who can wield a heavy club (at least, not always). Being strong, in the eyes of women today, consists of several qualities, including wealth, health, confidence, and a various others. From one of the most helpful guides for aspiring pick up artists out there, Savoy's Magic Bullets, here's what women want in men:

Health
Women still look for a man who is healthy, because back in the Stone Age, a man who wasn't healthy could die at any moment. This often meant that the whole family would die. So, you have to show women, or at least give the impression, that you are a healthy guy. This may include telling them you eat healthy foods or play an active sport. While bragging about how lazy you are or what kind of junk foods you eat may be funny, it certainly doesn't send a "come get me" signal to your target. You don't want to linger on topics of being sick or tired because it all reflects characteristics of an unhealthy person. And, most importantly, don't frown over your looks. Why? Good grooming is more important than good looks. If you shave well, smell good, and look snazzy, a girl will find you far more attractive than a handsome fellow who is too lazy to get rid of that 5 o'clock shadow.

Social Intuition
Girls don't like guys who can't interact with other people. You have to be a social, loud, and friendly guy who can solidify connections as he pleases. Socially connected also reflects your social value, meaning you get invited to more parties and social events. This means, unless this tends to work out for you, being awkward is not funny! Your best way to practice social intuition is to simply force yourself to talk with strangers. Ask about clothes or initiate a friendly conversation at the mall. Any practice in the field will help you understand the flow of conversation, and conversely, what tends to kill it.

Humor
Believe it or not, girls value how funny you are. Shelley Berman, the first comedian to ever win Best Comedy Album at the Grammys, said that "when you laugh, and when you cry, you've been moved to an extreme. And thank god for those moments in our lives." Humor, like crying, opens up your brain to things that you'd normally ignore or reject. Humor, a communication tool, breaks social barriers and creates social bonds. When you laugh, chemicals are released in your body which triggers positive emotions. Laughing with someone will cause you to associate those positive emotions with that person. Being funny is critical for a woman to associate her positive feelings with being around you. Just remember, it's not worth it to get cheap laughs at the expense of making fun of yourself. While it may be funny, other alpha males will try and take advantage of your weaknesses, and girls will find more flaws in you that you should have never revealed.

Status
When people just meet you, they categorize you. This will influence how they talk and interact with you. When you meet a new group of people, it's important that you demonstrate a high-status, which can be achieved in several ways. Going to a bar often and meeting the bartenders or owner will give you greater status around the place, and even more opportunities when you want to take a girl there. Suggesting a good idea or teaching a guy something will show that you are are a leader, a critical quality of someone who has high-status. Finally, high-status people don't ever display traits of low-status people. Showing that you're high-status includes never being envious, needy, worrisome, or overcritical.

Wealth
Women will feel safer with a guy who has a lot of money because he can provide for the family. Like the caveman who has the ability to bring in day's food, today's wealthy man has the ability to buy whatever he needs, whenever he needs it. Don't fret, though, if you're in college and not actually making money yet. Majoring in something that will lead to wealth, like law or medicine, is just as valuable to a woman as having the wealth. Though, don't be obvious about showing off your wealth; it comes off as needy and ostentatious. Rather, subtly leave signs of your wealth for her to catch onto: drive a nice car, buy expensive wine, or simply dress nicely. All of these will demonstrate that you're not someone who will end up clinging onto her for money.

Confidence
Confidence demonstrates success of a man, showing that he can overcome adversity and know that he can, too. This is probably the most valuable trait that women look for in men. Confidence is shown in body language and in the way you speak. Having relaxed shoulders or maintaining eye contact shows confidence. So does good posture and fluent speaking. Confidence is something that must be practiced constantly to finally develop a strong foundation. However, remember that confidence and arrogance are not synonymous. Being arrogant and self-centered, in fact, shows the opposite, revealing that you are so insecure as to cover up your flaws with excessive bragging. Your confidence should appear, and be, natural to all who see you.

Pre-selection
Pre-selection means that there are already women interested in you. To other girls looking at you, this makes you a greater challenge to get, and consequently, more attractive. On the other hand, not being pre-selected causes women to think that you may have a quality that women have chosen to steer clear from. So, it is important to demonstrate that you are pre-selected to your possible targets. How do you do this, though? When talking with your target, mention your ex-girlfriend or the camping trip you went on with three of your girl friends. If you can, walk into the bar with two or three women who are your friends. While it may be clear to most women that they are simply your friends, it always relays the fact that those women like to spend their time with you. Simply being around women will imply pre-selection, a powerful trait that will trigger envy of other women, and heighten their desire to win you over.

A Challenge
A man is challenging because he has a set of standards. Setting standards implies that the man has had a measure of success, otherwise he'd jump for anything that came knocking on his door. Being challenging shows that you're successful and that the girl will have to work to keep your interest. This is where "playing hard to get" comes in. If you meet a women and show that you're interested in her way too quickly, she'll decide you're not a challenge and walk off. Although you shouldn't display no interest, otherwise she'll find you boring and leave, it's important that you show less interest than her. This means you can be friendly and enthusiastic, but don't go asking a hundred questions about her to keep conversation from dying.

Source: Savoy, "Magic Bullets."
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