The Advantages and Disadvantages of Trial Marriage or "Live-In"

Well, people have different opinions about certain things and one might work good for them but not for others. If there are advantages in this trial marriage situation, more disadvantages are obviously present. Couples who have no commitment to each other, will go for trial marriage or just live-in. And if their being together will work good, then decide to get married later, but if not, they are free to look for another one.

Here are common reasons of people who have been into this situation which they considered advantage for them.

No expenses to worry about the wedding party. Most lovers who are overwhelmed with each other's feelings and emotions, can not wait for a long time to be together. To them, saving money for wedding preparation takes a lot of effort and it's a long wait. Why giving themselves a hard time when they can be together without a wedding ceremony?

Since men have the bigger responsibility for the wedding expenses, they will be glad if the woman agrees to live with them without getting married. it is advantageous to the man who is not stable financially. No more problem tor him to raise money for the wedding expenses. Anyway, they can live simply as long as they are together and they love each other. No matter what the people say it doesn't matter to them.

No legal problems to take care of. If couples can not get along well with each other, it is easy to separate ways anytime they want and they're free to look for another with no legal problems to worry about. They are legally free to marry. It is that easy, and many would prefer to have this kind of life specially those who have no commitments they are sold out to this idea.

For financial security reasons. If a guy is rich and willing to support a partner but has no commitment to get married, the woman who needs financial security will agree to the offer of living together just for financial reasons. No second thought of what will happen next. If her needs are supplied, it is fine with her. They have no serious commitments what soever. And this happens also to people who have average income. A man and woman agreed to live together so that they have someone to share with the bills and the rentals. They live like husband and wife but not legally married and has no commitments.

Others said they are not ready yet for responsibilities. They just want to enjoy each other's company. They don't want to be obligated with any responsibilities
that legal couples have. This is very common to young lovers. They felt that being legally married is a big responsibility. And since they are not yet ready for that big thing, specially if they have no stable job to support a family, they will just lived-in for the mean time and decide to get married when they are ready for responsibilities.

They want to learn more about each other and have better adjustments before tying the knot. This is also a common reason of those who are living-in. They want to learn more of each other. They will try if they could adjust with each other's attitudes. Trial and error method and if it don't work, it is just easy to separate ways. No expenses for legal processing like divorce or annulment of marriage. They said, it is the best way for them to know if they are compatible or not so that it will not be a problem once they will decide to tie the knot. At least they know each other very well.

What are the disadvantages of trial marriage or commonly known as lived-in?

Each party has no legal right to pursue each other. The man or woman has no legal right to pursue his/her partner if the other will marry another one.
The woman can not claim her legal right as a wife neither the man as husband too. If they have conjugal properties when they are living together, it's hard to make a claim of share. It will be more stressful and heart breaking experience. It will be a big trouble to face for both of them.

Illegitimate children. If there are children born of the couple's being together, they are illegitimate children and no right to bring the name of their father, therefore can not be considered as a legal son. or daughter. It will be an embarrassing situation for the child. He/ she will experience teasing from friends and peers that he/she is born out of wedlock. He is not secured in many ways. His future, his family and even his inheritance. He/she is under the mercy of his/ her father whether he will give any support if ever they will be separated. It's hard to claim for benefits if kids are not born to legal marriage. The children will suffer in this situation.

Can create insecurities. If couples are not legally married, it will create insecurities for both partners. They will always suspect of third parties when little differences arise. They felt it hard to understand situations when they are not secured with each other. It is really hard when you have no right to question or complain to any suspicion you have for your mate having third party relationship because you are not legally married. In the law both of you are free. It is embarrassing to claim something you does not own. When you are insecure it will make you doubt and gives you unhappy disposition all the time. You are easily irritated, hard to deal with and finally, you will end up to a miserable life.

Out destiny depends upon our choices in life. So if we will make the right choice, we will have a better life too.

Since people have different opinions on certain things, READERS, you are free to react, disagree or agree, but these are common reasons I heard from friends who are in this situation and from people whom I know, are also doing this. But one thing is very clear. God does not approve with living together out of wedlock. Certainly, there's no adultery committed if both were singles but they committed fornication.