The Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas Finds Her Soul Mate in Jesse Csincsak

The concept of the soulmate derives from Plato's Symposium. The theory being that humans originally had four legs and four arms and one head with two faces. Zeus feared their strength and divided them in half and condemned each to be searching for their missing half. Jesse Csincsak has won the heart of DeAnna Pappas and declared her to be his soulmate. She too has declared her devotion to Jesse. Monday night she and Jesse were finally able to be together in public to let everyone share in their veritable love fest.

As most of the free world is aware of by now, DeAnna Pappas and her new love Jesse Csincsak have set a date to be wed. I watched the finale with a mix of awe shucks 'ain't they cute' enthusiasm and 'I feel so bad for Jason' sadness. I didn't get a chance to see the show a lot throughout the season so I caught up by watching YouTube and having my best friend recap or reading the blogs. I knew Jesse was in the running after he received a rose in the third round of cuts. On the surface, it seemed like an odd match-up. I knew from the moment Jesse stepped out of the limousine, he was bringing his A-game. I mean he had to to overcome the quirkiness factor. While I don't want to call his style a gimmick, because I think it is really who he is; it worked like a gimmick. It made him interesting enough to get DeAnna's attention and allow her to see the substance beneath all of that quirkiness. I also give Jesse credit for some bold moves. The first of which was when he told DeAnna that he was going to be her friend first. At that point I felt like he really was sincere and that he understood what creates lasting love.

In much the way Jesse was surprising DeAnna during the course of the show, he was surprising me and I gotta admit, I might be a little in love with him myself. His willingness to have fun despite being out of his comfort zone is one of his qualities that started to win me over to his side. Within the confines of the compressed time frame, I could see the relationship between Jesse and DeAnna start to grow. DeAnna and Jesse are adorable together and obviously very much in love or at the very least they are deep in lust. Because of my own romantic tendencies, I'm going to call it love.

However, early on I was sure she was destined for Jeremy. It appeared that she was looking for a settled life and stability and Jeremy fit that bill. I had time last night to rewatch all of the YouTube episodes and realized that I'd misjudged DeAnna's intentions. It seems she was less sure about that picket fence existence than even she thought. The life of adventure that Jesse represents definitely seems to be a draw for her.| I also thought for a time that she'd set her cap for Graham but in addition to the communication issues that Ellen pointed out, Graham had some chauvinist tendencies that became irksome as the show progressed. The biggest issue I had with him was his seeming sense of entitlement and ownership. He seemed to feel that he was the one and that he was marking time and letting DeAnna do her thing until she chose him.

I liked Jason and felt like he was a great and stable guy. I think that's what basically did him in; especially after "good on paper" Jeremy had been sent home. There was no way Jason could compete with Jesse's fun-loving free spirited life by the balls personality. I don't think it was his son that got him cut but what his son represented. To have a child especially a step child means you have to assume a level of responsibility that I don't think DeAnna was looking for right off the bat. It only takes looking at her and Jesse's plans to divide their time between Breckenridge, Colorado and Atlanta, Georgia to see that even though they are planning to marry and have discussed kids, they aren't really looking to settle down right away.

My best friend has her own thoughts on why DeAnna chose Jesse and suffice it to say that I can not share any of them with you for fear of the censors rapelling from the ceiling and spiriting me away. She also feels that there are some pitfalls inherent in DeAnna and Jesse's relationship. She feels that Jesse's OCD neatness may turn out to be an issue. I have to add that my friend works in the mental health field so she knows from crazy. She's worried that his freakishly neat ways may become a bone of contention between him and DeAnna. Even the best relationships come with problems. However, I won't buy any problems for DeAnna and Jesse.

At the end of the day, I am a sucker for a good love story and this has turned out to be one. The odds of any couple making it are pretty long these days so they have just as much of chance as anyone else. I sincerely hope that Jesse and DeAnna are each others missing half or to co-opt another culture's definition; each other's basherte or "apportioned one" and that they are destined to be in love forever.