The Best Christmas Gift of 2007: My Fiance's Unconditional Love and Support
Three years ago I lost my mother to breast cancer two days after Christmas. The last time I saw my mother alive was actually Christmas day of that year, which makes Christmas an especially difficult time of year for me, since on top of the normal holiday rush, I am also facing the anniversary of the last time I saw my mother, and the approaching anniversary of her death.
While I will be doing fine all year when it comes to coping with the loss of my mother, around Christmas I am plunged right back into the raw feelings I felt when she first passed. I cry uncontrollably at the drop of a hat. I become manic, thrilled about my favorite holiday one moment, and distraught with grief the next.
So, during the month before Christmas, while I get excited about purchasing gifts for my fiance and baking Christmas cookies, I also become an emotional pain in the butt. I am easily angered, snap at my fiance for absolutely nothing, and sob on his shoulder almost every time in between.
Once Christmas is over, I resume my normal state, even today, the two year anniversary of her death, was just like any normal day. Every time of the year, other than Christmas, I feel that I live my life just like my mother would want me to, to the fullest. I know that my mother would not want me to spend our favorite holiday filled with grief, she would want me to carry on the traditions that we celebrated together.
So, how did my fiance cope? By offering nothing but unconditional love and support. Every time I would apologize for getting mad about something stupid he told me that he understood. If I started to cry he simply held me until I was done. He even got overly excited about Christmas, and spent time decorating sugar cookies with me, when normally he doesn't get all that excited about Christmas.
There is not material gift that could ever replace the love and support that I received from my fiance this year. His selflessness helped me to get through another Christmas, and gave me hope that eventually Christmas will once again become my favorite holiday, rather than just a reminder of what I have lost.
Published by Ainsley Patterson
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Post a CommentSounds like he has the right idea. My husband lost his mother suddenly at a young age, this past May. She was my best friend, yes, ironically, her being my in-law and all. I've found it hard to support him through his grief while dealing with my own, but that's what spouses do...support each other no matter what it takes. I snap nearly as much as he does, and all in all we just have to accept that we're acting out of pain, and not hate. Material things are often the gifts we overlook when considering our favorites, or most meaningful. That'll be the best gift he'll ever give you, and the one that you'll never tire of receiving.
That sounds like my husband! What a great man you have!
So I'm not the only knight in shining armor out there? gosh, I thought I had a lock on it. Just kidding... Seriously, he sounds like a compassionate man, I hate seeing men who treat their woman like dirt or take them for granted, and there are a lot of them out there. The best we can do is hope to do all we can, and I beat myself up everytime I realize I could have done better. Ask Carmella Mae, she will tell you, she is the light of my life.
What a wonderful story. You must adore your fiance! What a wonderful gift he gave you, himself. Absolutely beautiful.
You have a wonderful fiance :]