The Best Time to Have the Sex Talk with Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend

In any relationship, we have intimacy at sometime or another. But in this day and time we are living in, when is a good time to have that talk with our girlfriend or boyfriend about sex? It really depends on several things as to how and when you have that talk.

One of the first and up most important things to consider when having that talk with your girlfriend or boyfriend about sex is whether you are choosing to remain abstinent till marriage. Some guys or girls might not want to commit to waiting till marriage so I might suggest this needs to be addressed in the very beginning of a relationship so as not to lead them on.

For some older couples who have started dating again after maybe a divorce, I would suggest if your interested in a more physical relationship with them, you should tell them what your expectations are of the relationship and that you are interested in becoming physical with them later on down the road and that you would like for the both of you to be tested etc for any ST D's or other diseases that could affect one another.

The responsible adult will let another know that they are interested in sex and this is the time to have the discussion about sex. There are so many people affected with diseases and don't even know it, so it's very important to have this talk as soon as you start feeling physically attracted to one another before things get out of control.

Young people need to take allot of things into consideration before having the sex talk with their partners. Is this going to be someone who will remain in your life for an extended time frame or a one night stand? If it is a one night stand you are looking for, then be up front about that and then discuss contraceptives and other ways to use protection from diseases.

There are several Health Clinics in each town that will provide you with free condoms as well as other forms of birth control. They also offer classes on relationships as well as test that will let you know if your future sexual partner may or may not have any diseases.

Having sex is a very important step in a relationship and every one should take in consideration that the girl could become pregnant if she's still at the child bearing age. This is a huge responsibility to any one who is not prepared emotionally or physically in what to expect.

I have found that when someone is up front about an issue and direct when talking about it, things work out much more smoother with all involved, rather than jumping into a situation without discussing it and then having consequences to your actions you were not prepared for.

Once again, if you choose to have sex in a relationship you've just began then I might suggest once you've began kissing and having those feelings that you want to take the relationship to the next level you may want to discuss this with your partner and see how they feel and if they are in agreement with the timing.

And a person may want to take into consideration that the other party may be immature and discuss their sexual experience with other people which can cause pain and embarrassment to all of whom are involved. So make sure it's someone you trust and love before going to that next level in your relationship.

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Author: Candis Poyner

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