The Break Up Guide

Breaking up is hard to do. You know the song. It's the truth. An emotional roller coaster of ups and downs. It's normal. There's not an easy way to get out of it. This article will help you a bit to cope with a few suggestions on how to make the break up less traumatic for you.

Self Improvement

Let's assume that YOU are the one that was let go. I know your heart is broken but do a bit of looking back. Why did he or she break up with you? Be honest with yourself. Did you make some mistakes? Maybe you didn't listen to her and weren't attentive to her needs. Perhaps, even though he never gave you a reason to not trust him, you were always checking up on him. Things like that we can take away a learning experience and we should do just that. Tell yourself, "Next time, I'll be more attentive to the future lady I'm with and listen when she talks to me". "Next time, I'll never assume that every guy is like my ex from long ago and I'll trust my new man until he gives me a reason not to". Make sure you don't repeat the bad stuff that happened in this relationship during your next relationship.

The Blues

Most of us have been there. A broken heart sucks. We loose sleep, we don't eat or we eat too much, we drink (always a bad idea), we let ourselves go. That kind of stuff is normal but try not to let it go on for too long. Use this time to do some of those things you always wanted to do but your ex didn't want you to or wouldn't let you. Ladies, do you have long hair that gets tangled and it a real pain to brush and take care of? Did you always want a short hair cut but your ex liked it long?. Go out and get that hair cut. Guys, did you always want to grow a beard but your ex liked you clean shaven? Keep the money you would spend on shaving cream and grow your beard. Take a weekend getaway? Did she like the beach but you liked the mountains? (so you always went to the beach) Take off to the mountains. Do some camping and/or hunting and fishing. Ladies, now you can go the beach and not have to listen to him complain about the salty air. For the man...Go out with the guys, play some cards, have a beer, go to a live UFC match. Ladies, go out with your friends, go shopping with them, out to lunch. Do all the things that you didn't do but wanted to when you were with you ex. You're both still going to have some of the blues but doing these things with definitely take the edge off and make them more tolerable and less obvious.

The Bump In (and how to handle it)

If you live in the same area as your ex, you might bump into them from time to time. And it will be even more awkward when you bump into him or her when they're on a date with their new woman or man. This will be worse if you bump into them and they're with someone and you're alone. It's ok. Your ex is not with you anymore. Take comfort in knowing that they are just as uncomfortable as you are at the moment. Handle it with grace even if it kills you. Shake their hand, smile. Joke around a bit and say something like, "You two look just about as uncomfortable as I am". That will show your ex that you are fine (even if you're not).

Time heals all wounds, you'll always remember your ex but the break up will not longer be your baggage but your memories. You will live to love again. Good luck.