The Changing Fantasies of Women

As I lie in bed one evening, a thought occurred to me. I almost always fall asleep thinking about my fantasy. This fantasy plays out in my head just about every night. It's the same one, over and over and nothing changes. My fantasy is simple. Really. I'm sitting on a beach, all by myself. I'm not wearing anything sexy, just a pair of jeans and a tee. Suddenly, I'm not alone anymore. Just in front of me is the most gorgeous man...the rugged, outdoor type. He holds out his hand and we spend the next few moments in a wild passionate kiss. This leads, of course, to a night of splendor.

In my fantasy the man next to me is not snoring, farting, or emitting any other disgusting body sounds. In this fantasy, he is attentive sexually and sensually. There is no man in my bed telling me to get over on my side of the bed. In this fantasy, he wants to hold me close and he can't keep his hands off me. There is no man in my bed hogging the covers and making me cold. Instead, the man in my fantasy is pulling me close and making me hot. There is no man in my bed that simply rolls over when he's through with me. The man in my fantasy is craving to bring me to that infinite orgasm.

This is why women fantasize. We spend our evenings in bed with the men we love and they are real. They fart, they snore, and, sometimes, even release nasty smells. But, we love them anyway. However, in order for us women to be satisfied with our lives the way they are, we must have our fantasies. Whether your fantasy is to spend a night of wild passion with a sexy man or your being saved from doom by your knight in shining armor, you are not alone in your dreams. Many women often spend time everyday thinking about their fantasy and what they desire. It's normal, it's fun, and I can honestly admit I enjoy thinking about my fantasy.

It's not that I am unhappy in my current relationship. It's simply that no matter who you are in a relationship with, you are in a relationship with someone who is imperfect. Our fantasy man is perfect. He is put in our mind to be attentive and meets our every need., including our physical, spiritual, and emotional needs. In real life, our men just can't fulfill every desire we may have. I don't even think most men try. If they did, perhaps we wouldn't have to fantasize as much!

When I was younger, of course, my fantasies were different. At age ten, my fantasy was to become a famous singer. In my early twenties, they were about living in a penthouse suite in the middle of a large city and enjoying my career as a writer. I really didn't fantasize too much about men or have any sexual fantasies. At least none that I can remember. However, the older I got, the more my fantasy changed to include men. They started out with meeting the man of my dreams and then changed to simply meeting the man of my sexual dreams. This happens to many women as they age.

I believe one of the reasons our fantasies change is that when we are young, we have our whole lives ahead of us. We wonder what the future holds for us and we live everyday in the moment. Our priority is to establish ourselves and make our mark in the world. As we age, we've become established and while we still want to make our mark in the world, our lives become filled up with other things, such as working, raising a family, and managing a household. We have no time for ourselves and the only place we can get it is in our pretend world. When this happens, our fantasies change, as well.

For me, and probably other women, too, it goes a step further than this. When I was twenty-five years old, I wasn't confident in my sexual prowess. I was sexual, but I was not confident in my sexuality. As I've matured, I've become a woman who is more confident, both sexually and spiritually. Life experiences have matured me and I now live in the present and, yet, live for my fantasy to unfold every night.

I wonder, however, if the older I get, will my fantasies change even more? Or will they disappear? Or, even better, will they become more sexual? Have you ever noticed how many elderly women read romance novels? More older women are passionate readers of romance novels than younger women. Is this an indication that as women age, our sexual fantasies keep coming on strong? I certainly hope so!