The Choices You Make
It seems to me that my friend has no idea how to make good choices concerning her life. I am very worried about her. She is very irresponsible in managing money. Her current boyfriend wants an open relationship, and she will accept whatever he wants, as long as it keeps him with her. For some reason, her self- esteem is a mess and she doesn't think she deserves any better. Her mom, who I would have thought was her biggest fan, is continually critical of her weight. The woman is ashamed of her own daughter and absolutely refuses to recognize the efforts she is making to live a more healthy lifestyle. She is also working a minumum wage job in an attempt to achieve some level of financial independence. In the future, she wants to get her own place.
I am discouraged and frustrated. I will continue to love, support and pray for her. In all honesty, it hurts me to see her struggling in difficult situations and not be in a position to be of more help. It has taken awhile, but I realize she brought the situation upon herself. Although I care and want to protect her, she is a grown woman. She needs to live her life and make her own choices. However right or wrong those choices may seem to others.
Published by Amanda Lay
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- While I appreciated her tearful honesty, I was also hurt, bewildered, and disappointed.
- I am in no position to be judgmental, goodness knows I have made mistakes.
- However, I am at a loss as to how best to be a friend right now.
1 Comments
Post a CommentYou pretty much answered your own questions about the influences that make each of us make mistakes and bad decisions. You also quote that you are in no place to be judgemental but it seems that is exactly what you are doing. Supporting and helping your friend can be as simple as being a listener and a sounding board.
Make a list of ways you can help your friend with what you already have to work with. Don't nag but suggest in a nice but firm way. Such as...Instead of doing [name action] how about you were to try [name solution you thought might help]. You'd be surprised! Your friend reached out to you and was silently asking for your help. I saw it in your article plain as day.