The Dating Deception - Does True Love Exist?

After all of the years of chasing ladies, I have come to the conclusion that true love doesn't exist any more, I guess that it could be a little of me losing my way, but it has a lot more to do with the way that the women are taught to think these days.

I guess that I'm just a little more traditional in my way of thinking, I have even went to the length to discuss with my mom, who tells me that I won't ever find what I'm looking for, which she asked a few questions about and made things a whole lot more clear.

She and I after talking this over have come to the conclusion that I'm looking for someone like my mother, and I believe that it's true, she went on to tell me that a woman like here does not exist these days, let me explain what I men here.

Let me just dive in head first with the explanation of my idea of the perfect woman, I grew up in a home where my mother ran the house, she did all of the cooking, cleaning, and shopping in the house, she also held a job down at the same time.

The house always ran like a fine tuned machine, it was never short of perfect, this is what I would like to find in a woman, I don't expect the woman to work if she doesn't want to, unless the idea is to make a bunch of babies, then I would expect some income on her side.

I am a man who has a house that is already paid for, and over the last couple of years has had it completely remodeled, I don't mind bringing the money home, I don't mind being the one to maintain the yard, and keep the house in good condition.

I do mind not getting anything in return from a woman, I do mind them being stuck up, I can't stomach the whole political correctness thing, I hate to be told what I can say, and how I can say it, this is America and I will say what I want, and do as I please.

The last lady that I was with would not cook any food, or clean the house, if I wanted those things done, then I had to do them after I got home from my auto body shop, so I'd go to work all day long, I started at about 6:30 in the morning, and got home about 8:00 at night.

I didn't work for somebody else at this shop, it was my business so I had to do the hours or lose the business, is it wrong for me to want the woman of the house to run the house, this is how I was raised, it's all I know, and I don't think that I'll be changing it any time soon.

She also worked at the bank to bring home extra money, and she made good money there, I brought in about four thousand per month, plus she had money form working at the bank, be tween the both of us it ended up top be about seventy five hundred bring home per month.

It never seemed to be enough money though, so i would work more hours to make more money, and the circle goes around, this would cause problems because I wasn't home enough, but the only way I knew to make more money was to work more, and work harder.

This idea caused it's problems also, but we usually were able to get by these issues, I told her when we first met that I refused to yell and argue with each other, I told her that if I came home to yelling I would either go back to the shop, or down to the bar, but I would not entertain it by joining in.

This idea really didn't go over to well with her because when she was in the mood to yell that is what she wanted to do, you could not sway that in any way, so often I would end up back the the shop, or down at the bar, I thought that I really did love her.

In the end our ideas about how things should be just would not mesh together, we could not reach a middle ground, a place where both of us could feel good about the situation, when you added the kids in things got worse, these were her kids from another husband.

I worked my butt off to make things work in this relationship, but it just wasn't meant to be, and this isn't the first time that something like this has happened, it happens every time I try to get close to a woman, without fail it never works.

This is why I say that true love doesn't exist, most woman are in it not for love, but to see what they can squeeze the guy for, if you think not, what's the very first thing that happens in a divorce, the woman takes half, and they only have to be married for five years to do it.

Once a guy signs those papers his entire world changes, everything that he has worked his entire life for can be removed with in five years, and since they place such a high value on what the woman says, the guy usually ends up on the losing end.

No this isn't a whine fest, it's just what I have learned over the years, and it's only begins to scratch the surface of the things that I have learned, I still love the ladies, I just don't thing that there is one for me out there, I don't believe in the soul mate idea.

I guess I'm just an old fashion guy, I don't believe that I can ever get along with the modern way of thinking, I think that the I'm a woman of the 2000's is just a bunch of crap, it's an excuse for you to get your hooks in to some poor guy, and then you just kick back and take it easy.

After a guy gets carped on time after time, he finally has to look at the situation and think to himself, is it me, or is it the woman, in my case I came to the conclusion that it was both parties, usually more the woman then me, but that doesn't matter.

For love to exist two people have to find common ground, a place where they can agree on most things n the lives, and in their relationship, until this common ground is reached there can be no love, there is a word for this common ground, it's called respect, and it take work to develop it.

If one person in the relationship thinks that they are doing all of the work, and getting no kudos for it, there can be no respect, you can't build trust without building respect first, they go hand in hand, you have got to have one to have the other.

These two things are the very foundation that love is built on in my opinion, I'm not saying that I know it all, these are just a few observations that I have taken over the years, they are the things that always kill my relationships, and they always will.

I'm no a hard person to get along with either, all I ask is that you respect my home, and that you respect me, I know that respect has to be earned, and the trust can be built off of that, it doesn't take much though, just run the house the way my mom used to, and don't whine about it.

Don't make me come home to dishes flying at my head, or walk in to a hurricane of temper, and you yelling at me, I will always walk out, I will never entertain a yelling match, if you can't talk to me like a gown up, don't say anything at all.

It's not that difficult, it's not rocket science and you don't have to write complicated equations to figure it out, just put the time in to build a solid base of respect, and then everything else will fall in to place, that is all in takes in my book, now you know.