The Definition of a "Friend with Benefits"

Some people think that a relationship comes with just too much responsibility. You have to buy birthday presents, gifts, and cards for each other's mothers. And you can't even cheat every once in a while. The solution that many people have come up with for this problem is to get an FWB or friend with benefits. Below you will find the definition of a friend with benefits

A friend with benefits is a person who is your friend

You cherish this person. You like being around them, talking to them, and just plain communicating with them. You might not love your friend, but still you value the relationship between the two of you.

A friend with benefits gives something much more than friendship

This friend lets you touch them, kiss them, and do all kinds of other things to them. Why? It's because they like it when you do those things. But it could be for other reasons as well.

A friend with benefits may have low self-esteem

This person might like you, and you just don't know it or you do know it and you don't care. The friend thinks the best way to get you to like them back is to let you do whatever you want to them. You, on the other hand, are only in some cases, starting to like them more.

A friend with benefits gives you something you need

You may start to like a friend with benefits because there is something in that relationship that you need and slowly you are coming to realize what that thing is. It may be intimacy. It could be trust, or it could just be the thrill of a forbidden romance. Whatever it is, there is something that makes it hard for you to stop.

A friend with benefits may be depressed

Depressed, lonely, you name it, a friend with benefits might be going through some sort of emotional turmoil, but being with you makes them feel calmer. What are you to the friend then? A psychologist, but your medicine is more physical.

A friend with benefits may be pregnant

This is one of the worst things that could happen. You could get an FWB pregnant, and you don't even love that person. Then, once you come to your senses and start to get in a real relationship with someone else, you'll still have that old friend with benefits hanging around asking for child support.

Having an FWB is just like procrastination. It feels good at first, but in the end, you get messed up. You find you're messing with not only your own head but also someone else's.