The Difference Between Settling and Accepting What Is

It is an easy option to Settle, but it is hard to Accept What Is (at least it seems like a difficult thing to do). Yet many people view these acts or concepts as the same, in that Settling is simply Accepting What Is. I do not agree. Possibly it is our definitions, our labels of these actions, which are confused. Following are how I define or describe these concepts.

Settling is accepting something even though we know it is not in our best interest to do so. We accept something less because we are unsure if we can attain our true intent. It is also a hedge in the sense that we cling to what we have now because we are unsure what the future will hold.

Accepting What Is is a movement outside of what is in our best interest, in other words we allow the world to unravel around us without imposing our ego on it. Certain things are outside of our control and we do not worry about it or try to change it. We simply go with the flow.

The main difference between the two is that Settling should never occur, and Accepting What Is should always occur. This is true in the grand sense of our life, in our life goals, and not necessarily in choosing which movie to go to with a friend. That is compromise (small choices which matter little in the grander scheme of our life), not Settling. In other words, Settling could be further described by the action or state of mind of consciously giving up on life dreams or intentions.

Settling is an act against your true nature in achieving what you need to do in this lifetime. The only way to know you are not settling is to follow what your heart is really telling you. Don't rationalize, don't fear the unknown, simply proceed with what the heart is telling you. Tuning into what that is can be difficult at times and this is why meditation is so important when major choices arrive in life. Calming the mind and tuning into the higher dimensions of ourselves is crucial in order to not succumb to a racing mind. It is important to do this, for to hedge yourself in life is to give ourselves a false security. Nothing in life is secure, and until we realize that we cannot live fully. We cling to things which are temporary and thus feel anguish when they disappear. Settling hurts us in multiple ways as we cling to something now which does not bring us joy, which brings us anguish in the future anyway, and we miss out on our true desire both now and tomorrow.

Accepting What Is on the other hand is a state of mind, a state of peace, where the person realizes there is a duality in all of life, and thus accepts what comes in this moment. It does not mean the person won't pursue anything or not have life goals, it simply means they do not worry about what happens along the path. In each moment we can work towards our goals, live our life and do it any way we feel. If something occurs that diverts us from our path, or we feel it may divert us, we realize it is what it is. We can look to see if it was avoidable, so we can learn for the future, but, either way this event has happened or is happening. Denying it or fighting it results in far more damage than the initial event.

We must choose to be where we want to be, work towards it without settling for less, and on that journey accept the variety of life.If you are interested in this area, fusing emotional, psychological and spiritual aspects http://elevatingthesoul.com/ provides information on attaining a life that is in harmony with our desires.