The Dip Method: How to Maintain, Better, and Even Terminate Your Relationship

I was talking to my friends the other day and we were talking about relationships. Some people stay in relationships too long. Some people can't stay in a relationship. Other people don't even like titles like boyfriend or girlfriend. So I came up with a crazy method to combat lacking relationships.

When most people break up, they want it to be a painless act. When people get their feelings involved, it's always hard. I had to come up with a way to make sure that if your girlfriend or boyfriend wasn't up to par, you could break up feeling better about yourself.

First, let people know up front that if you ever needed to leave them for a good reason, you would. Never be in a position, place, or situation where you can't get out of it if you need to. Most people let so much in the course of a relationship that when they need to break up, they can't. People have to love people logically.

Second, you have to set up the way you want to be treated and the way you are going to treat others immediately. Most people don't speak and get walked over constantly. If people can't dog you, then they'll show you a certain level of respect. When you let people have some control over you, they will use it to make you feel like you need them and can't live without them. Standing on your own to feet at all times makes you more in control of your feelings.

Thirdly, people will do what you know and expect of them. Some people cheat and their mates expect them to be sorry, promising never to do it again. Some people can do that. Most people can't though. Some people overlook a lot of things and let it slide. We know some people are no good. We know some people are trust-worthy. You must expect people to be everything they are.

How you will feel or how bad a breakup will be can't be determined but if you set up the right ground work, build yourself so that you can be crazy in love and still level headed, you put yourself in a great position of power.