The Dismal Social Life of Some Fat Ladies
Previously published in Examiner
The following is a testimonial of an obese woman in Montreal. The pandemic medical condition is sweeping across North America as well as Montreal. New Research shows that young children who are obese will are at risk for diabetes and other medical conditions associated with obesity.
Obese Montrealers can seek help through dieticians, such programs as weight watchers and obesity clinics.
Obesity Therapists in Montréal
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Diary of a Fat Woman
After I married and then divorced, I once again found it hard to date. I was lonely and I wanted to have someone in my life but I became discouraged fast. I joined a single parent organization figuring I could find somebody there. But nothing much had changed since high school. The skinny girls got all the guys and the big girls sat alone.
I joined the board of directors as soon as I joined the association. I wanted and needed friends desperately; all my friends were married and no longer had time for me. So I had to create a new life for myself. I made male friendships in the association, yet I never succeeded in finding a boyfriend. Still, I was not alone; all the fat ladies were in the same position as I was.
Every Saturday night the association held dances as fundraisers for the children's activities. I worked the dances, mainly because I was not a dancer, but also because I did not like the pain of always being judged for my weight.
If you walked into the majority of dances you would see all the normal sized women up dancing and the fat women sitting down watching. Was it really because fat women don't like to exercise, a common feeling that many of the association members held at the time?No, it was because they were never asked. I literally saw two men on separate occasions going up to a table of woman and asking each and every one of the ladies to have a dance with them until they reached the fat lady at the table and then rudely moved on.
Was it mean and nasty? Was there something wrong with her? No, she was just fat. I never liked to dance but I would not want the embarrassment and pain of that kind of rejection, and so my remedy was to work the dance.
Published by Carol Roach
Carol Roach holds a masters in counselling psychology. She worked as a therapist at the Douglas Hospital in Montreal before becoming a professional writer.Carol is the author of the book Picking Up The Piece... View profile
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Very sad indeed - I have a niece who struggles with weight issues. Sadly this is our society these days, cheers
I think it has a lot to do with confidence. I don't want to meet anyone because of my size, even though I have lost over 100 pounds and my daughter tells me I'm not really that fat anymore... I still don't have the confidence. I think even if I were thin I still wouldn't have the confidence to let a man into my life. I've always gotten the bottom feeders, so to speak because being fat I couldn't get anyone else. Now I feel that I can't do any better than I did before so I don't put myself out there.
Good series, Carol.
Excellent series
The most important relationship we have other then with our Lord is with ourselves! When I was single I was just as happy as I am now that I am married. As a matter of fact after I got married I longed to spend more time by myself and especially alone with the Lord. I have finally learned to be more assertive and let others know that I need time to myself. Being alone sparks creativity and so much more! In almost all of my relationships with men I have been taken advantage of and hurt badly in the end. I never had a problem attracting men, but, I always sold myself short due to low self esteem, and, settled when I should have said NO! Love you!!!
Wonderful series. Thanks!
(((((hugs))))) great article... :o)
Thanks again for sharing and continuing this series.
ps Bear in mind that the guys that the skinny girls got were not always worth a toot. :-P