The Erectile Dysfunction Conundrum

The Erectile Dysfunction Conundrum: could it be defined as 'event disaster,' 'eventually dead,' 'effect diminished,' 'evidently disappointed?' No matter how it's termed, this is what you can expect if you develop diabetes.

The bottom line: the penis does not get hard. And, not getting hard renders a disappointing and frustrating sex life. Men who have diabetes, can expect to live without enjoyable sensuous sex. They may not become sexually dormant by choice, but diabetes causes their manhood to hibernate, permanently.

Look into the faces of men who cannot 'get it up' anymore. Some of these males display personality changes, such as, angry, judgmental, or withdrawn. They were once sexually active, with energetic libidos, but now are destined to sit on the sidelines of erotic pleasure. Many men who have diabetes 'talk' about sexual conquests, or try to get sexual satisfaction by reminiscing about previous gratifying sex lives.

Others 'talk' a good line, but when it comes time to 'put up' or shut up, they can offer only toys to satisfy their partner's sexual desires. Is this enough? Not by any stretch of the imagination! Toys can be fun, some of the time, and can get their partner to orgasm, but there is nothing like the real thing.

Some people propose that sex can get boring, but sex toys get boring, as well. Diabetics who have partners that crave a warm, hard penis and sexual experiences will not be satisfied or thrilled with sex toys for long. People need human contact and interaction. For a partner that has no hope for sexual activity with a real, live or healthy penis, the thrill and fun of sexual activity disappears.

If a partner is resolved to getting sexual release from plastic, battery-operated man-made toys they may begin to wonder about the necessity of involving another human. Constant sex with toys equates to a sterile and unemotional sexual experience. Toys provide no warm feelings, and offer no intimate connection, other than an orgasm. The thrill of kissing, warm caresses, and scents of a male body are nonexistent. Lingering moments and satisfying feelings of the sex act are about as rewarding as scrubbing the kitchen floor.

Diabetic men who profess that they can still enjoy and satisfy their partners are living in a delusional state. Some believe they are still provide sexual pleasures to their partners. But, can they really attest, truthfully, that their partners are as loving towards them as they once were? Do diabetic men often experience little things, such as, a sensuous touches, an erotic statementes or outwardly intimate expressions from their partners?

Sure, partners might extend courteous behavior towards diabetic men, but the exciting thoughts of a spur-of-the-moment interlude has become a distant memory. Many female partners, of diabetic men, can be forced to distinguish their sexual desires and disavow any fun-filled sexual expectations. They know the only thing awaiting them is a cold, plastic device, and many prefer to avoid the situation entirely.

There are prescription drugs, on the market, that can help. But, most likely, diabetics will not receive the desired benefits from them. Many times, the desired results produce only semi-hard erections, or erections lasting just a few moments. Either way, the end result can be about as satisfying as an interlude with sex toys. Sure, you might get off, but any raging fire or after-glow, from the sexual activity, may be reduced to an 'okay' experience. For many partners of diabetic men, the enticing desire to initiate or enter into sexual activities has left the building.

Some partners of diabetic men take refuge in other activities. Sometimes these women delve into hobbies, sports, or careers. To some degree, these activities seem to satisfy their need for human contact and relationship. No, it is not equal to sexual satisfaction, but can provide warm and fuzzy feelings. Perhaps they exhaust themselves and their sexual drive through physical activities, such as exercising.

Many continue living their lives without sex because they are deeply committed to their diabetic partner. But, all too often, these women become disengaged from life and lose contact with their inner-selves. They allow lives to pass them by and learn to disconnect from their sexual desires.

Diabetic men can help to manage their diabetes through diet and exercise. They desire a loving relationship, but many prefer to sit back and do nothing to help themselves. Many blame their partners for being aloof or disinterested in sex. If a partner was a sensuous, sexual woman earlier on in the relationship, they probably haven't changed. The change stems from diabetes and the male's disinterest to help themselves. It's always easier to blame others for our failures, than to take personal responsibility.