The Fallacy of Marriage

This quote emphasizes my current feelings on the entire issue of people getting married to one another. There are quite a few reasons why a person should closely exam his or her mate before deciding something as legally and morally bounding as marriage. I have recently come to my own personal conclusion that there needs to be more than one logical reason for two people to become joined by law and that marriage shouldn't rely solely on "love" or just the whim of the moment.

One of my first main reasons why people shouldn't marry is the extinction of monogamous relationships. Lately, it seems as though everyone thinks that it's human nature for people to cheat on their spouses. Whether it's the man's or the woman's fault, cheating is wrong in every sense of the modern world. However, that doesn't stop the mass majorities. The proof is in the fifty percent of marriages that fail due to the lack of commitment.

Another reason why most people shouldn't become married is because they are only physically attracted to each other. External beauty only lasts for a little while; sooner or later, one's husband or wife is going to become old, fat, bald, wrinkled, hairy, and decrepit. The quote "love at first sight" usually depends upon outside beauty. Unfortunately, most young relationships are centered around looks and attractiveness. They ignore or allow exceptions in each other's personalities due to how much they like one another's outward appearance. Then, after they are both married for a matter of time, the physical bond fades away and the "real" person inside comes out.

An additional not-so-obvious problem with getting married is having to live with someone twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week and not get sick and tired of him or her. It requires an extreme amount of patience to deal with a person's annoying little habits and not go flying off the handle. At first, they may seem cute or even adorable. Eventually, however, the spouse might become downright obnoxious.

A lot of times, a person may seem interesting or mysterious during the initial dating process. When this kind of adornment becomes a reason for marriage, a dilemma is created. Sooner or later, the amazement is going to wear off and the man or woman is going to become bored with his or her enigmatic mate. After all, personality can only be intriguing for so long. Once the wonder wears off, the spouse might become extremely tiresome of the "real" person behind the shroud.

One of the biggest problems with marriages today is money. Money, said to be the root of all evil, makes many happy marriages dissolve away into hopelessness and despair. When a husband or wife (whichever one is making most of the income) becomes laid off or quits his or her job, then the spouse is left to worry about where the cash flow is going to come from. The stress becomes enormous, eventually leading to arguments and second-guessing as to how they are going to survive. If a member of the couple does not find a way to earn more currency then the marriage is going to rely solely on finding a new job and trying to stay afloat. This too, will fade away, and the marriage will end in divorce as they discover how they will not be able to support one another.

Marriage is definitely a big commitment. While I have yet to make that commitment, relationships come and go, and I am left to analyze how inconvenient marriage might really be. Granted, if I were to marry, it would be nice to know that there will always be someone there for me. Unfortunately, the word "always" quite often develops into "for a while".