The Female Idiocy: A Look at the Often Messed-Up Attitude of Females in the Dating Scene

I'm beginning to lose faith in the young women of America. At least all the ones that I've come in contact with. These women all share the same insecurities, doubts, and hidden agendas when it comes to the men they're dating. As far as I've seen, their habits, if not accepted, lead to outright psychotic behavior. Their actions express helplessness, desperation, a complete lack of self control. They irritate me and everyone close to them. Something must be done.

It always starts off the same way. The woman meets a man, and although excited, she presents a degree of nonchalance when acknowledging him. She was taught to play hard to get; she's become good at it. She understands that to win the man she must use all wit and grace she possesses while still remaining discreet.

Say the woman actually does win the man. She immediately opens herself up and lets the man in. Most often she is disappointed by the results. The man doesn't treat her well, the way she ought to be treated. She knows this, but at first she brushes the thoughts aside. She knows he doesn't feel the same way about her, she recognizes this but ignores it for as long as she can.

The man finally gives up on her, or in the worst cases, only partially gives up on her, stringing her along for later "dates." The woman is then overcome with sadness and confusion. She then focuses every effort she has into winning the man back. She knows he's over her, she knows he's not answering her calls for a reason, yet she continues to pick up the phone. Her tactics prove unsuccessful but she cannot stop. All prior knowledge of "hard to get" has disappeared. Her need of needing becomes so extreme, and she voices that opinion to everyone she is close to. They just want to scream "Forget him!" but they can't. Or they do, and the woman ignores it or changes the subject, claiming that she doesn't even care that much.

The worst scenarios I've seen recently go beyond instances of unrequited love. If he has his roommates kick you out of his house when he's not even there, get it through your head: you can't hide this anymore, this is full-fledged obsession. If he hits you, and you continue to talk to him, you both need help. I had a boy practically force himself on me a few years ago. He was a good friend, but I haven't spoken to him since that night. Maybe I'm stubborn, maybe I'm smart. Show some respect for yourself for Christ's sake, and maybe then men will have some respect for you.

I don't want to sound like some FemiNazi or Carrie Bradshaw clone (I'll never be able to bring the exquisite combination of wit and expertise to the page that she does…………) because I know it's not men that are the antagonists here. I know plenty of men who have been in similar situations as these women, but they agonize in a different way. Women are too open with their feelings, too easily swayed, and too needy of other's comfort. I also don't think I have a right to say this given my current relationship. I'm lucky, but I know how it goes. I've been there and have lived to see another day. As will you, without him. Believe me.