The First Steps to Mastering the Art of Flirting

Mastering the art of flirting can take years. Not everyone is a natural flirt, and for those who aren't, it can be a struggle. The good news is, flirting is not entirely necessary to get a date! However, if you want to learn, it doesn't have to be that difficult. There are many ways to flirt with a guy, and the most effective are the least outrageous. Here are a few simple flirting tips to help you on your mission to find a man!

Think subtle

The best way to flirt with someone is to do it with subtlety. I bet you have all seen those women who wear low cut tops, and drape themselves all over the guys they like because they think it's sexy. It's not. Flirting has very little to do with the clothes you wear, it's about the way you act. If you like him, focus on the small things. Smile, compliment him, and occasionally touch his arm or his hand. Little gestures might not immediately make him realize you are interested, but in the long term, it is better than throwing yourself at him.

Find your inner confidence

The one thing women secretly admire in girls who throw themselves at guys is their confidence. Although we may never want to behave in such an obvious way, the fact that a fellow sister has the nerve to be so bold is something we can't help but envy. If you are going to flirt successfully, you will need to find the confidence within yourself to engage in conversation with a guy. Don't be afraid that he won't like you, or find you attractive. Assume that he will, and the rest will follow. Just be careful not to overdo it!

Ask questions

This is something only a lady with confidence can do! Don't be scared to ask him something a little offbeat. A good way to discover his personality is to ask him where his favorite place in the world is, or what his ideal job would be. These things will let you know more about who he really is, and they are a refreshing change from, "Do you come here often?"

Know when to give up

Unfortunately, nothing ever works 100 percent of the time. Sometimes, no matter how much we want someone, they just aren't feeling the spark. When flirting, you must know when it is time to move on or you will only become an annoyance. If he has excused himself more than once to go to the bathroom within a short space of time, his eyes have glazed over, or he is ordering drinks in quick succession, it's time to go. Tell him it was nice to talk to him, and step away. Leaving gracefully is much better than rambling on until he falls asleep.

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