The First Time Ever I Saw Your Porn
When was the First Time You Ever Saw a Naked Picture?
I was around 7 or 8 years old, and just as shocked as my young sister when we discovered that the center of the small book contained grainy black and white images of men and women in the nude.
Ever curious, we'd tuck the book back amongst the stacks of regular mass-market paperbacks and such, sneaking back every so often to gaze at something we'd never seen before.
My friend recounted her much more disturbing entree into the world of naked photos: As a 9-year-old, she came across someone's copy of Hustler magazine, and opened it to discover a photo of a man urinating into a woman's mouth.
"That was my introduction to porn," she told me 20-odd years after the event, which obviously stuck with her in a bad way.
Those were the 1970s and 80s, a comparatively innocent time when us kids had to strive to make out naked images in the wiggly lines of the OnTV channels our parents didn't receive.
Today, unfortunately, the simply Googling of an innocent search term can turn up images worse than any I saw as a child.
Spyware programs track activity on people's computers, then force unwanted advertisements to pop-up, some I was shocked (again, 30 years later) to discover contain naked images of people engaged in all kind of sex acts.
Fortunately, there are ways to protect our children's eyes and minds and souls (and our own, for that matter) by combating the XXX ads by downloading free antispyware software that offers real time protection against nude images we never asked to see.
Some 30- and 40-somethings in my generation shy away from the techie stuff, but these so-called open source "clam antivirus" programs have an easy-to-use interface, automated updates, and real human support -- so even the technologically-challenged can make a go of it.
We must change and adapt with the times.
Our eyes are like cameras, constantly taking pictures all day long.
Some of those images are wonderful: My grandmother snatching me up from a seat I'd taken next to a drunk man on the "El" train in Chicago when I was a 5-year-old.
Other images, not so great, are indelibly imprinted on my brain.
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Published by Paula Neal Mooney
Paula Neal Mooney has been published in various national magazines, such as Writer's Digest and other parenting publications. She has been writing online since 2005, and focuses on the areas of Christiani... View profile
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Post a CommentJust watching a movie these days can be a challange. What's acceptable, and whats not? We have become desensitized to where we should draw the line even for our own children. PG, R, G, NR, the lines on ratings are even fuzzy.
I don't remember the first time I came across this kind of thing--unfortunately, people can gradually become immune to it. Thanks for this article.
"Our eyes are like cameras, constantly taking pictures all day long" - this is an excellent description of what observation really is. Parents should realize that their children's minds are absorbing an endless array of scary/inappropriate/confusing images through TV, internet, and video games. Filtering software is a must but parental supervision is important too. Keeping computers in family/living rooms is very helpful in that regard.
We were taking a walk in the neighborhood and found one of those mags in the parking lot.
Pretty good article. I was probably 5 or 6 when me and my friend next door found his dad's Playboy stash (next to an almost empty fifth of whisky). Stuff like that can really mess up a young boy's mind.
We used to hang out with scott in high school. We were all best friends and saw "A Clockwork Orange" that night at the Stanford ASSU Sunday flicks, 'cuz they'd never ID us for watching porn or R-rated movies. We also used to sneak into the Adult theatre downtown which, if memory serves, was called the Pussycat? None of us remembers now, too many brain cells missing since high school. It showed lots of porn films, like they do in Europe: you paid once, stayed as long as you want while the films ran over and over again. We all thought Emmanuelle and "the Joys of a Woman," its sequel, were the best porn, or cheap, smutty movies shot on location in the City, places where we'd hang out, like the Tenderloin, the Palace of Fine arts, or Golden Gate park, dig? We used to LOL watching the old winos in overcoats who spent all their lives on the streets or in the Pussycat. When they'd get tossed out for touching themselves, it made us wonder, "why are people always trying to shut these places dow
Great article! Wow! what a difficult question! I cannot remember exactly when, but it must have been during the late '60's. Which came first? Having been raised in such a squeaky clean and wholesome family, how did I get exposed to so much porn so early? Nudie photos and magazines were everywhere! The Sexual Revolution was in full swing, but it made me too randy all of the time, because there was so much of it around. Lots of swimming pools and hot tubs in my 'hood, and all of my friends and neighbors were always naked anyway, so who needed pictures? Lots of sex manuals lying around my friends' parents' houses, too, so I read every new one that was published, and they came out all of the time, like the Joy of Sex; More Joy, etc. I read everything by Masters and Johnson on my friends bookshelves, too because I wasn't allowed to. I turned 10 yrs old in Aug of 1968, but I bet I saw nudity before that. Remember that b&w snapshot of John Lennon in the poster/collage that came with the White
You are right about those search terms. It is alarming, how one simple or "normal" term can produce such un-related and porn based search results. Due to the advances in technology and growth in the porn content, it is just as important to protect what children see today as it was years ago. Great article.
You know what else messed me up when I was little though? The movie "Dirty Dancing." My mouth dropped through the whole movie. To a young girl, that movie was graphic and once again, I was hanging out with the same 13-year-old girl crossing and uncrossing her leg. She's probably a nympho these days. Ha, ha, ha. I say parents should pay more attention to their kids' older friends for showing them this stuff. I probably wouldn't have seen as much as I did if I wasn't always hanging out with older kids.
I don't really understand why the last line about your grandmother snatching you up had anything to do with the rest of this article, but I dug the rest. The first time I saw porn was with a friend when I was about 9. Her mother left a porn tape downstairs and we snuck and watched it. She was 13 and she kept crossing and uncrossing her legs. I did the same but I didn't really understand why she was doing it. I realized years later that she was really getting turned on by the tape, but I was just sitting their in open-mouthed amazement about how three people could turn a tennis match into a taste test. It was cra-zy. As for porn on the Internet, I see it and don't see it. It doesn't bother me either way. However, if I was beat over the head and became crazy enough to have kids, I might consider porn to be more serious.