The Flirty Boyfriend: How to Deal with Him

Perhaps you have known your boyfriend is a flirt from the beginning of your relationship or maybe this is a new thing. He's the one always smiling at women and opening doors, exchanging gestures, and having small talk. Even when you're with him he's flirty in front of you! You are glad to have a man with such appeal but you want him to yourself. Well there are two different types of flirts. One is a flirt that loves to shower attention on females to make them feel good or acknowledge him to see if he has "still got it". Generally this type has a flirty personality and is a people person.

The other type of flirt is the one that flirts in a way to open possibilities to further explore. There is a definite line not to cross when in a relationship but this type of man knows nothing of boundaries. Everything is fair game when he's flirting because he feels like he has nothing to lose. This man will flirt until he gets what he wants which is ultimately another woman.

The flirty personality

If your man loves female attention he is definitely the flirty type. Flirting may be entirely harmless but it can sometimes be detrimental to a relationship. Unfortunately if your man started out as a flirt you kind of have to accept things for what they are. Some men with the flirty personality type don't even intend to flirt but have personalities that draw them to people and as a result people are drawn to them. This personality type is usually described as a social butterfly. No one is a stranger to this type of man. If you are in a relationship with a flirty guy you can define boundaries. Every couple should have a clear idea of what boundaries they have for themselves and one another. Letting your boyfriend know that his flirting upsets you and that you'd rather he not do it may solve the problem. His response may be that he will limit his flirting to times when he's not around you, or he may say he doesn't see flirting as a problem and won't change a thing. The primary thing you need to remember is that if your boyfriend is a natural flirt his flirting may indeed be harmless. If flirting is an aspect of his personality you should really just let him be himself as long as it doesn't overstep boundaries of respect for you or your commitment to each other.

The explorer

Another type of flirt is the explorer. This type of man flirts to push buttons and jokes to see exactly how far he can get with the flirting. He sometimes flirts at inappropriate times and places. He will not only flirt in front of you, but in front of friends and family as well. His flirting can be wild uncontrolled gestures, or going so far as to ask another woman for her number. You may not even realize this man is flirting because he has the ability to whisper a whole conversation when you are just across the room. The point of flirting for this type is to somehow test the chosen females to see how far he can get. Sometimes this man even uses the fact that he has you as a girlfriend to really try and bait another female. We have all heard the line "I am in a relationship but things are not going well...and" you know the rest. The only way to deal with a boyfriend who is so blatant in his pursuit is to either leave him or realize that this is something that will remain a sore spot in your relationship. Even if you decide to stay with your boyfriend you have to prepare yourself for the crazy stories than can sometimes follow. His seemingly innocent flirting is no longer when it leads to an affair and somehow his female on the side ends up pregnant. Be aware of what you're getting yourself into and as always practice safe sex.