The Height Every Woman Wants
Next time you see a very tall woman who's dressed up, look at her shoes; most likely she'll be wearing flats. Flats are ugly. One very tall woman said on a tall women's forum, that flats make a tall woman look even taller. And she's right, because flats convey one message: I am ashamed of my height and I'm trying to hide it. Flats look ridiculous, and show every bit of a tall woman's large feet.
Check out the posture of very tall women. Many slouch. Like this fools anybody. I'm sure you can tell by now that I am very critical of very tall women who try to conceal their height and who are self-conscious about it.
But I'm a lot lighter on the short women out there who'd sell their souls to have a few more inches. I cannot blame them. We live in a tall-oriented society. It's impossible for short women to reach things on the top shelves in the frozen foods section of a grocery store, especially when the item isn't at the edge of the shelf. Same with the milk section. No way can short women reach up there. Also, I can see how a short women can feel on edge or intimidated if a six-foot-tall man is looming over her with an angry face and booming voice.
We all shrink with age. Short women will eventually become shorter. So I can't blame short women for wearing four-inch heels and piling their hair atop their head.
Don't get me wrong; there are many short women who love being petite. Their dates are almost always a lot taller, keeping alive the fairy tale of the man being "the protector." I'm sure that many athletes, in which short stature is an asset, would never want to be taller (gymnastics, figure skating, sport climbing, dancing, ballet).
But if every American woman were asked, how tall would you like to be, what would be the most popular choice? Before I tell you what I think it is and why, I just want to say this: What I wouldn't give to be taller myself! I want four more inches. Shame on those very tall women who hate life because they are as tall as many men. Shame on you!
Now, I think the most popular choice would be 5-8. This is considered attractively tall, but not too tall, certainly not so tall as to invite comments and questions (a la "Do you play basketball" and "How's the weather up there?"). Nobody stares and whispers about the 5-8 woman who just entered a room. Though strangely, I know a 5-8 woman who, during her singles days, didn't like wearing heels to dances. I thought she was nuts.
Short or even medium height women often wish they were 5-8. The regality is there, without the intimidation factor towards insecure men. And if a 5-8 women feels too tall on occasion when wearing 3-inch heels, she always knows she'll shrink 3 inches next day when she's wearing sneakers.
The Amazons who hate their height would actually be happy at 5-8, because deep down inside, many of them appreciate the benefits of extra height, and they wouldn't want to give all of it up, though there do exist six-foot-tall women who'd kill to be 5-3.
A 5-8 height satisfies both worlds; it's a meeting place, a middle ground. And this is how tall I stand. Bet you thought I was short! But no sir, I am 5-8, and wish to high heaven that I stood six feet. This doesn't mean I'm not happy with my current height. I love it. In fact, I love it so much, I want more!
Published by Jillita Horton
Freelance writer for fitness print magazines and fitness Web sites; ghost writer for fitness Web sites View profile
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28 Comments
Post a CommentI can't even believe reading this.. this person sounds like they are 12 years old. How can somebody be so one sided? Pooor short people, it must be so hard lliving in a tall people world... shame on you tall people for being tall and wanting to be short!! How DARE you slouch and wear flats?? you can't hide from the world tall people!!!! How dare you be uncomfortable with yourselves!!
Are you kidding me? Everyone has the right to feel how they want to about their body (which by the way is given, not chosen) and just because someone hates being short doesn't mean they can chip away at tall people and pick out their insecurities. Clearly this writer has some of her own.
What is with people calling women that are 5'3" short? If the average heigt of women in America and Australia is 5'4", which it is, then if you wanted to extend it, an average height range would be 5'3"-5'5", which is exactly right! 5'1"-5'3" would be shortish-average, while 5'6"-5'7" would be average-tallish. Also, why would a woman want to be 5'11", unless she is a runway model? There is absolutely NO benefit and it just looks weird to be taller than the majority of guys. Even if I wanted to do runway modelling, I'd never want to be taller than 5'9", which is the average male height (5'8"-5'10"). I can safely say that most women wouldnt want to be too tall or too short. The perfect height in my opinion is 5'3"-5'6" because you can wear the best 4-inch heels and still be shorter than most guys. Your would also look the best in flat shoes too. I'm 5'
This is just an issue of mine, I'm definitely not speaking out for the girls who are ashamed of their height, but I am 5'9" and wished I were shorter because I've met so many men under 5'9" that are wonderful people... wonderful enough to be great boyfriend material. But being shorter than my height is the biggest turn off to me. I really really try to date men that are shorter than me but its just waaaay too difficult when being shorter than me destroys almost all sense of attraction. What I'm trying to say is that women are not always ashamed of their tall figures, they're just frustrated when their dating pool is limited and have to fight strong mental blocks to try and expand their dating pools. In that way I can see shorter people with the same turn offs as being very lucky.
This is the most obnoxious article I have ever read
Now why would I want to be 5'8? I love being 5'2. It makes me feel cute and feminine. I think this article should be renamed as "The Height Every TALL Woman Wants" :)
i am 5 foot 8 inches tall. love wearing high heels , minimum 2.5 inches high heels.
it is nice to know that in the writer's opinion 5 ft 8 inches is the perfect height for a woman. all thanks to my Maker.
I am 5ft2.9 in height,for long now i have been wearing heels thinking dat am too short.when i stopped the heels,i found out that my height is not bad.i felt fufiled when i saw girls that are 4ft.atleast am ok.
I'm 5'9" and I love it. I didn't grow until I was almost 18 years old. I'd always been too quiet and intimidated. I wasn't taken seriously and was easily railroaded. When I grew, guys weren't towering over me anymore and people didn't act as protective of me anymore and I didn't feel in need of protection. I suppose it was mostly psychological. I love my heels for that extra pick me up and I'm disappointed when if the date is taller than me when I'm wearing my heels. It means I need bigger heels.
Arg, my comment got cut off. Anyway, I don't think everybody shrinks. My mom and dad are both around 60, and they haven't shrunk. Plus, I'm willing to bet that there'll be a way to prevent shrinking by the time I'm that old (I'm 19 now).
I'm 5'2", so I'm just under average. Sometimes people will insist I'm "small" or "short," even though I'm less than 2 inches below average! Sometimes I measure myself, wondering if I managed to sprout another half-inch or so. If I could choose my height, I'd like to be about 5'4". Then again, I'm a lot more accepting of my fate now; I try to keep good posture and remind myself that I'm really not that "short." The way I see it, it's mostly taller people that insist that people shorter than them are "short," even if they're around average.
But there are advantages to being petite:
-Being able to curl up comfortably on small surfaces, just like a cat would
-(Potentially) living longer (according to some studies, genes causing shorter height can be linked to longevity
-Easier to find clothes (hence the "petite" sections)
-Not having to worry about being "too tall"
If anything, it's usually males that worry about their height. A 5'2" woman can get through life without many proble