The Imaginary Lover

Carol Roach
Previously Published in Examiner

The following is a testimonial of an obese woman in Montreal. The pandemic medical condition is sweeping across North America as well as Montreal. New Research shows that young children who are obese will are at risk for diabetes and other medical conditions associated with obesity.

Obese Montrealers can seek help through dieticians, such programs as weight watchers and obesity clinics.

Obesity Therapists in Montréal

Weight Watchers in Montreal

Overeaters Anonymous in Montreal

Diary of a Fat Woman

I still longed to find someone at the single parent association. Once I was foolish enough to think that I had found someone. He called me every night. As needy as I was at the time, at first I didn't realize that he was not interested in me, He was interested in my best friend. It then occurred to me that our conversations always centered on Gina. What did Gina like to do? Did she like him; and finally would she consider going out with him? I can't tell you how disappointed I was when I realized his true intentions. He was just using me, the fat lady to get to her.


He was the first of several who called me to get through to Gina. At least, after that learning experience I know what the real score was. But you know it still felt good to talk to a male voice.

Just like listening to the male radio announcer felt good. I did the same as other lonely women; I got so wrapped up in the male announcer's voice that I almost believed he was talking directly to me. The melodic voice, saying "and now I will serenade you to sounds of the righteous brothers on this hot, lazy August evening. Sit back, relax, enjoy," helped me to sleep and to think I had someone else in the room with me.

Like many other women I knew, I had an imaginary lover, I called him Rocco, and he was just perfect, he did not care about my weight, he cared about me. He was loving and affectionate and a true gentleman.



Published by Carol Roach

Carol Roach holds a masters in counselling psychology. She worked as a therapist at the Douglas Hospital in Montreal before becoming a professional writer.Carol is the author of the book Picking Up The Piece...  View profile

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  • Michele Starkey11/2/2011

    I can only imagine the pain of having to go thru this - I'd probably have an imaginary friend also, cheers

  • Bridgitte Williams11/1/2011

    I also must add this...even skinny girls get bad men...lol. Love comes in all shapes, colors and sizes! You just have to learn to know that.

  • Bridgitte Williams11/1/2011

    ps I did not mean to say that this person in this story is you, I do not know that. What I do know is sometimes, in a lonely person'a life, any love is right and we all have to learn, make mistakes, to grow and travel on to a better place!

  • Bridgitte Williams11/1/2011

    I am glad you shared your story and you are not alone. :-) I am single and I think it is worth it to wait for the right one...and they will come along. When you are ready and the time is right. Most likely when you least expect it. Just be glad you know the truth and trust your instincts.

  • Jenny Powers10/31/2011

    This is very sad.

  • Jeanne Baney10/31/2011

    So sad!!

  • Gayle Crabtree10/30/2011

    Thanks for sharing your insight.

  • Mary Oberg10/30/2011

    Thanks for sharing, Carol!

  • Mike Powers10/30/2011

    A very sad but wonderful story, so filled with empathy. Thanks for sharing, Carol.

  • Han Van Meegerin10/30/2011

    This is very sad. Thank you for sharing.

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