The Importance of Finances in a Relationship

Some people are under the faulty assumption that money isn't a big issue in a relationship. Well, for all of the non believers, it's actually more than a big issue, it's a huge issue. If there are children involved, it could very well be the deal sealer. Keep in mind that financial troubles contribute to over half of all divorces. Also, keep in mind that financial issues can likely be stemmed to or even a direct result of something that evolved into a more critical situation. Examples of the critical situations that I am referring to are cheating with someone whose financial position is more substantial or getting involved in illegal activities to obtain money, which ultimately may have caused the break-up or divorce. If two people are not financially stable in a relationship, the chance that the relationship will maintain its happiness is slim.

I have heard people say that love determines the relationship. While love is extremely important, you cannot withstand a relationship from love alone. Let's just be honest and ask ourselves, does love bring food to the table and keep a roof over our heads? Does love get your children the supplies and the uniforms they need for school? No, income from some source does that. Therefore, if you are in a relationship with a person who is a financial burden to your lifestyle, meaning they do not contribute to your basic needs of being financially able to uphold the household, how much love is going to keep you happy together? Better yet, how much love is going to keep the relationship surviving at all?

Contrary to what you may believe at this point, I do not feel that money determines the survival of a relationship neither. I am pretty sure that Hollywood celebrities have taught you that. What I am saying is that financial stability is just as important as quality time, sex, and communication. Therefore, it is very important for you and your mate to be aware of what is needed from each of you individually in order to keep the household afloat while not putting too much stress and dependence upon the other person. If you are very well-off and do not need your lover to contribute to anything financially, then it's not about you needing your lover, it is more about your lover needing you. Of course, if you are both wealthy, then the financial stability in the relationship already exists.